tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-60009878308273895012024-03-15T21:12:35.152-04:00Far From FlawlessLife doesn't have to be perfect to be great!Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.comBlogger578125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-50457178542501183962024-02-12T02:00:00.001-05:002024-02-12T02:00:00.240-05:00Roadblocks to Love - Beyond Romance<blockquote style="border: none; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmsH41c-SpVVqhLqqHZ690E6Hq1x5ndSx6x-eQ7PnhLYf8_0Sd2u8zu1nRIfiIFLRFSkoMaGNBTNiBAcS9CK6K5FC3F9zRacVMOkqfDqhy73bPwsrpHN3cvmvuLZIoif2fKA_QQ-3tKLNlmvjuVfdHL7PwKBDCgWGEeJZQLA_cwEg633bht_eIkgmvLep4/s5760/Valentine.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5760" data-original-width="3840" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmsH41c-SpVVqhLqqHZ690E6Hq1x5ndSx6x-eQ7PnhLYf8_0Sd2u8zu1nRIfiIFLRFSkoMaGNBTNiBAcS9CK6K5FC3F9zRacVMOkqfDqhy73bPwsrpHN3cvmvuLZIoif2fKA_QQ-3tKLNlmvjuVfdHL7PwKBDCgWGEeJZQLA_cwEg633bht_eIkgmvLep4/w266-h400/Valentine.jpg" width="266" /></a></div><p></p></blockquote><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ff00fe;"><b>I've been thinking about love lately, have you? Valentine's holds a special place in my heart and I've always tried to celebrate true love during this time. Real love is so much more romance.</b> </span><span style="color: #a64d79;"> </span></p><p></p><p>Love, the powerful force that binds us together, comes in various forms beyond the realm of romantic relationships. We often associate love with romantic entanglements, but it extends far beyond, touching friendships, family bonds, and connections with the world around us. However, this beautiful journey is not always smooth; it's riddled with roadblocks that test our resilience and commitment to love in its many facets.</p><p><b><span style="color: #ff00fe;">Expectations and Disappointments: We are all vulnerable to being let down.</span></b></p><p>Love often comes with expectations, be it expecting reciprocity in relationships or anticipating specific outcomes. When reality doesn't align with these expectations, disappointment can set in, creating a roadblock to love. <i>Learning to manage expectations and embracing the unpredictability of relationships is crucial.</i> I have found this to be especially true with my children as they grow into their own unique personhood.</p><p><b><span style="color: #ff00fe;">Fear of Vulnerability: It is risky to be real.</span></b></p><p>Vulnerability is the cornerstone of deep connections, but the fear of being vulnerable can be a significant roadblock to love. Opening up emotionally, sharing insecurities, and exposing our true selves can be daunting. Overcoming this fear requires trust, patience, and a willingness to be authentic, fostering stronger bonds with those we care about. <i>We will never truly feel loved if we are fearful of sharing our true selves.</i></p><p><b><span style="color: #ff00fe;">Unresolved Past Wounds: We must not build walls of self-protection.</span></b></p><p>Baggage from past experiences, whether in relationships or life in general, can cast a shadow on our ability to love openly. Unresolved past wounds can create trust issues, fear of commitment, or an unwillingness to let others in. Addressing and healing these wounds is essential for clearing the path to love. <i>Take time to assess your ability to seek connection in a healthy way.</i></p><p><b><span style="color: #ff00fe;">Communication Breakdowns: We all have them.</span></b></p><p>One of the fundamental roadblocks to love is communication breakdown. Clear and honest communication is the bridge that connects hearts, and when it falters, it can lead to distance and emotional disconnection. over than </p><p><span style="color: #ff00fe;"><b>Time and Prioritization: Our schedules are often the enemy relationships</b>.</span></p><p>In our fast-paced lives, time becomes a precious commodity. Balancing work, personal pursuits, and relationships is challenging, often leading to neglect in one or more areas. Making time for loved ones and prioritizing relationships is crucial to prevent love from being overshadowed by the demands of daily life.</p><p>Love is an unfolding journey filled with both joy and challenges. Navigating roadblocks requires introspection, patience, and a commitment to growth. The reward of connection is worth overcoming any hurdle on the path to connection. </p><p>On a personal note - I have loved deeply and experienced extreme rejection in the love category. Ultimately, I have found the only love which is unchanging comes from the God of the Bible. Trusting Him and learning his ways lets me love others well. If you wonder where to start? Try beginning there.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Segoe UI", Roboto, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif, "Apple Color Emoji", "Segoe UI Emoji", "Segoe UI Symbol"; font-size: 18px;"><span style="color: #ff00fe;">"Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God." I John 4:7</span></span></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-87068003923919070182024-01-04T12:00:00.001-05:002024-01-04T12:00:00.146-05:00Have you ever tried a spending freeze?<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWNtqZ5gC9J5iZ98OiBkk03mc6Uo5P-rzQj451nDX8y2ySdmIdNZ1rUIAh2k8T1bhslgizIEqSHOkXyrywVfb4rfLftU_OsG8mW7JDDgU-jghM3RRv0p3hfAWAwuXzZUfSnfJCXqHMV0_YTaOiGrXCmPJGyCx3ot0H-g4C0UziwwiN0gg9UC8hgzBovLWa/s6720/pexels-karolina-grabowska-5900074.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4480" data-original-width="6720" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWNtqZ5gC9J5iZ98OiBkk03mc6Uo5P-rzQj451nDX8y2ySdmIdNZ1rUIAh2k8T1bhslgizIEqSHOkXyrywVfb4rfLftU_OsG8mW7JDDgU-jghM3RRv0p3hfAWAwuXzZUfSnfJCXqHMV0_YTaOiGrXCmPJGyCx3ot0H-g4C0UziwwiN0gg9UC8hgzBovLWa/w640-h426/pexels-karolina-grabowska-5900074.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br />Happy New Year! I'm slow to transition into a new year and new habits. Christmas leaves me spinning, so it's usually early January before I'm able to slow down and consider goals and habits that I want to continue for the next year. One that I often repeat is a spending freeze.<p></p><p>After the holiday season, I feel a little out of control with spending. It seems money is required at every turn and the outflow is overwhelming. A personal spending freeze always helps me feel like I'm taking control of my own finances and self. For me, the first of the year is a natural time to slow the torrent of spending.</p><p>You've probably heard of "Dry January" or all the fitness goals that roll out for the start of a new year. A Spending Freeze is just what it sounds like, only there are certain built-in allowances that must be paid (hello, utility bill). Obviously you can't spend literally zero for a month - you need to eat and get around. The key is to <b>cut nonessential spending</b> in order to save, pay off debt or put the money to work in another way. </p><p><u><b><span style="font-size: medium;">How does a spending freeze work?</span></b></u></p><p><b>Keep spending on the normal essential. </b>Monthly bills, groceries and medicine, personal hygiene items and the like are things we need and must spend money to provide. The goal isn't to deprive yourself or your family but to filter purchases by actual need.</p><p><b>Set the time limit</b>. Will you aim for one month? Will you try for one week? They key is to exercise the muscle of self-discipline and the actual time limit varies per your family needs. Do you have a child with a birthday during this time? A gift and dinner out don't count against you when there is a reason. You're in charge of your own self, so you get to set the limits. They key is to stick with them.</p><p><b>No eating out or coffee shops</b>. For a set time, make your coffee and dinners at home. Bring lunch with you to the office. </p><p><b>Nix online shopping</b>. It's just too easy to add to cart and purchase. While you're at it, take this time to unsubscribe from all the ads that hit your inbox or text notifications. You don't want the marketers to have a direct hit to your wallet.</p><p><b>Look for free entertainment</b>. Get outside, visit the library (or Libby app) and get together with your friends for an at-home movie night. Go for a winter drive with your partner or do an online fitness class.</p><p><b>Do not purchase new clothes,</b> or anything that isn't essential. Unless you need socks/undies or your children need to replace something, just stay away from retail.</p><p>The quick rule is to ask yourself whether you really<i><b> need </b></i>to purchase something. There are many great sales, but do you really need another cute top? Can you wait a few weeks before purchasing the new shoes? Challenge yourself to pause and be creative. <b> You will feel empowered by not falling prey to all the marketing schemes that tell you what you must buy now</b>.</p><p><b>What will you do with the money you save?</b> This is the fun part! Even is you are going to use the money to pay back holiday debt, that's a great goal. Could you save it towards a summer vacation? What about a family treat, like season passes to a entertainment spot? Is there a non-profit that could benefit from your sacrifice? Are you looking to replace something at home, like an appliance or piece of furniture? </p><p>There are so many ways to implement a spending freeze. Get your family on board, or try it alone for the first time. You will be surprised at easily we normally spend without consideration. Try to stop spending for a bit and reap the rewards of your own self discipline. It's a great way to demonstrate to our kids that we don't always need something new.</p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-71574635070460461002023-12-07T09:00:00.001-05:002023-12-07T09:00:00.150-05:00My Teens' Favorite Holiday Traditions<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEisrElbGnb2jteNEx9bOIMuZgOYBMkzH3TNG0JzIMkyBV87We8ZeNmOyBjmMasnRXucursfaJzDp521C1_hNEQa9drkobFhT8S5wi_E0w7JWAa9qKh6CxhsmdB89ufmvhlSegokQ03je_ZibqaRsGiYkpt2KrixXHaiU6vvm0D2QKZSXJP0gbyUx72rrGOv/s4032/Traditions%204.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3024" data-original-width="4032" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEisrElbGnb2jteNEx9bOIMuZgOYBMkzH3TNG0JzIMkyBV87We8ZeNmOyBjmMasnRXucursfaJzDp521C1_hNEQa9drkobFhT8S5wi_E0w7JWAa9qKh6CxhsmdB89ufmvhlSegokQ03je_ZibqaRsGiYkpt2KrixXHaiU6vvm0D2QKZSXJP0gbyUx72rrGOv/w640-h480/Traditions%204.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br />When you get past some attitude and embrace a bit of snarky dialogue, having teen is a lot of fun. Sometimes, it might feel like the holiday <em>'magic'</em> is a bit lost in these older ages, but I'm hear to share that Christmas can still be a time that builds connection and creates memories...which is something of even greater value as their time in your 'nest' starts to wind down.<br /><br />As a mom, there are so many traditions that I bring to the family every year: We attend the Christmas Eve service, pack and send Shoeboxes, participate in a daily Advent door reading, annual ornaments, Christmas light road tours, holiday date with mom, ice skating, traveling to visit family, visit to see Santa, decorate gingerbread houses, bake cookies and deliver to neighbors, party with friends at home, and the list goes on.<br /><br />A few traditions seem to fall away. In middle school they stopped wanting to visit Santa. It became harder for the teens with their own social calendar and job schedules to participate in our family friends party. Traveling to visit relatives wasn't on top of their priority list. So I asked,<strong> what do you still love?</strong><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiu_velBcI-pcnbrePjj5JJwje-T8AIVQqQA5aNJezunQHcxZxIkEL4a_q6DfyWzOe_yvXWwjvRnI9NQChEhogZS0RBxRk-6RzHg6nVyDpMnqRmpXegMr7zYaWj269hiXXwusJcRtiydWLWzl2h_Uhf7QV_TmZ6RphGTzoHsEOvIbwbUKRquYjYsXz-ziSs/s4032/file%20(1).jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4032" data-original-width="3024" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiu_velBcI-pcnbrePjj5JJwje-T8AIVQqQA5aNJezunQHcxZxIkEL4a_q6DfyWzOe_yvXWwjvRnI9NQChEhogZS0RBxRk-6RzHg6nVyDpMnqRmpXegMr7zYaWj269hiXXwusJcRtiydWLWzl2h_Uhf7QV_TmZ6RphGTzoHsEOvIbwbUKRquYjYsXz-ziSs/w300-h400/file%20(1).jpg" width="300" /></a></div>After much pulling of teeth, they admit to loving these the most:<br /><br />"I really like just chilling and watching Hallmark movies with mom."<br /><br />"The Advent doors are always slap."<br /><br />"You know I like eating big meals as a fam."<br /><br />"The advent calendar is the best because it's a little celebration everyday."<br /><br />"The annual ornaments are great because they hold a memory every year."<br /><br />"Christmas light drives are fantastic and just feel so festive."<br /><br />"I like the advent doors, the holiday date with mom and the stockings."<br /><br />If you have older children, ask them what they like! It's fun to hear their perspective...and it may free you from something that just doesn't resonate any longer.<br /><br />Yes, the traditions may not look exactly the same as your holiday did when you had young children. Still, your older kids and teens still love and appreciate the family fun of holiday traditions. No matter what season of life, carry something from the past into the future and hang on to the memories while making more. The most valuable point of traditions is the togetherness and that they foster. <strong>With teens, it's never been a better time to create that point of connection.</strong><p></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiN3l52AcW7K3IKS7t3m37b6fjYc1md256MsFkS-OW2JusizsiVIj5DiZzeHEwP6EIifvBG4tpoa6HgI1FT68uitwdY4zze-V3yYXD0GabJCE7uCHY9jX7pv_4VxPLtiLb50fLM_5RECCXyavKDV8ZxnWStN_Lz2ekf53WkltuH7Oz1t-ipz_LMnDDS8AZs/s4032/Hallmark%20Socks.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3024" data-original-width="4032" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiN3l52AcW7K3IKS7t3m37b6fjYc1md256MsFkS-OW2JusizsiVIj5DiZzeHEwP6EIifvBG4tpoa6HgI1FT68uitwdY4zze-V3yYXD0GabJCE7uCHY9jX7pv_4VxPLtiLb50fLM_5RECCXyavKDV8ZxnWStN_Lz2ekf53WkltuH7Oz1t-ipz_LMnDDS8AZs/w640-h480/Hallmark%20Socks.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Other Ideas for Holiday Fun with Teens:</span><br /><br />- Walk the dog through a holiday light show.<br />- Deliver cookies to your neighbors, assisted living home or fire station.<br />- Go to a parade, they are fun and festive.<br />- Pick up hot chocolate (or make your own) and go for a Christmas light drive. Let your teen pick the playlist.<br />- Have a wrapping party together.<br />- Take them to a thrift store and provide $$ to purchase a festive sweater.<br />- Enjoy a winter hike.<br />- Have a date with mom and make it somewhere they love.<br />- Let them invite a bunch of friends over for holiday movies.<p></p><p><!-- wp:paragraph -->
<!-- /wp:paragraph --></p><p>What ideas do you have?<br /><br /></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-88634490902852011442023-11-02T14:04:00.000-04:002023-11-02T14:04:56.693-04:00Seemingly Small Life Hacks that Make a Big Difference Along the Way<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEihrKQqMXMazXWMRRexrgsHiE_8eJUm5IZBvPx5RTNxJXK0nsK4K7FwP6MWP1Oq4tANjVwLvQQciu0RZYWr8G0wm1RBtBQ-S9EvXbzGZ3DmKLssjwSJwWkO7-R6041xm2zdgi-VXisvO1NnR8I7oqKZQ3c5xxQMTlP2mhsKo2ti-YLqJ8WfV3hEDfslUKR2/s6397/pexels-vlada-karpovich-9969149.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4265" data-original-width="6397" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEihrKQqMXMazXWMRRexrgsHiE_8eJUm5IZBvPx5RTNxJXK0nsK4K7FwP6MWP1Oq4tANjVwLvQQciu0RZYWr8G0wm1RBtBQ-S9EvXbzGZ3DmKLssjwSJwWkO7-R6041xm2zdgi-VXisvO1NnR8I7oqKZQ3c5xxQMTlP2mhsKo2ti-YLqJ8WfV3hEDfslUKR2/w640-h426/pexels-vlada-karpovich-9969149.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><p></p><p>We live in a region with four distinct seasons. Maybe you adore the moody fall vibes, but for me it is a reminder that I'm headed for several months of gray, of darkness and of cold. The temperature this week reminds me that the damp and chill are settling in for a stay. Yes, we are gearing up for the joy of Christmas, but even that often fills me with a slight panic. I do my best remain fixed on the beauty and the value of each season, but for me it can be a struggle.</p><p>So here are a few smallish things I'm doing for myself that help to replenish what each day drains away. Maybe you can share an idea, too?</p><p><b>Make Your Bed...</b> or clean the sink, clear the floor, fluff the sofa pillow. Whatever it is that gives you a quick sense of accomplishment is worth taking the the minutes to complete. I make my bed daily.</p><p><b>Take Small Breaks </b>and start small. I don't have to complete the decorating in one day, I'm better when I let it unfold in little bits over the course of a week (or two).</p><p><b>Feed Your Body, and Your Heart</b>. The season of indulgence is almost here so I'm proactively being intentional with nutritious, healthy choices. Soups and whole grains are benefiting. But don't forget to enjoy the occasional treat and share with those whom you hold close. Weekly coffee dates with my daughter are a special treat in our current season. Rest and connect whenever you can.</p><p><b>Live in the Moment, Capture the Feeling.</b> We all know to be present in the moment, so make the effort and really do it. Sit back and look at the fun your children are having, the silly teenagers with their friends or the ease and camaraderie of your dear friends. Then, snap a photo that you promise not to post - just to savor and remember.</p><p><b>Schedule a Massage. </b>I love a full body massage, maybe for you it's a haircut or facial. My budget doesn't allow this as often as I'd like, so I'm happy to be the practice person at a massage school for a fraction of the price. </p><p><b>Scripture and Gratitude</b> make a difference. When I feel discouraged or overwhelmed it never fails to pause and refocus on all the good in my life. </p><p>I hope that your autumn has been full of pumpkin/apple spiced goodness. If you feel a little blah because of the weather or the schedule, maybe these practices will perk up your spirit. Do you have any tried and true ways to recharge?</p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-59124025335652573022023-10-26T12:38:00.000-04:002023-10-26T12:38:30.541-04:00Visit a Living History Museum on the River<p>Do you want to know what it was like to "sail the ocean blue, in 1492?" A replica of the historical ship that sailed to North America will soon be sailing into Knoxville. It's a great way to spend time outside and have a glimpse into history, as well. The Pinta, was the first ship of that voyage to sight land.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8Lx9nwH82yFrFTitQRBw9Tp4O_g8_N9dWNF_XK7RUS6bS2A_twzrYNunOXier56PxS2kNTYx_1pk8bgB-0wn39WhYpaTUQZz2ehuDH3T3lONxaQ4qV_SaVnPUYnzb9fTB_VYsna6wE-Mj4EZ6gQMoMC1qA596fR97CzUReyiHo0DhBgWufbjV0OM7NSg5/s2798/p5.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2798" data-original-width="1873" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8Lx9nwH82yFrFTitQRBw9Tp4O_g8_N9dWNF_XK7RUS6bS2A_twzrYNunOXier56PxS2kNTYx_1pk8bgB-0wn39WhYpaTUQZz2ehuDH3T3lONxaQ4qV_SaVnPUYnzb9fTB_VYsna6wE-Mj4EZ6gQMoMC1qA596fR97CzUReyiHo0DhBgWufbjV0OM7NSg5/w268-h400/p5.jpg" width="268" /></a><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhay369fOPYteA3d8vjosrKJUZrQ6v_-4qKh_Zcn1gzKU0ALmCIOA11cD3nGh5oknt3xM35FR3GwUcmcWId7Rg0LVEs7Ifviu5xUzAXjFFw4JD8N3YIj-1wmimtmSzeyLXDAnXk7MLZChW9apJDDo0k7sgGlhuDDwi8QLUyrLko0NumRxYQucLkivdLu3LG/s2798/p9.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2798" data-original-width="1873" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhay369fOPYteA3d8vjosrKJUZrQ6v_-4qKh_Zcn1gzKU0ALmCIOA11cD3nGh5oknt3xM35FR3GwUcmcWId7Rg0LVEs7Ifviu5xUzAXjFFw4JD8N3YIj-1wmimtmSzeyLXDAnXk7MLZChW9apJDDo0k7sgGlhuDDwi8QLUyrLko0NumRxYQucLkivdLu3LG/w268-h400/p9.jpg" width="268" /></a></div><p>You might be surprised by the size of the ship, considering it made trans-Atlantic voyages. You might be impressed with the sturdiness of the construction. It was built by Portuguese shipbuilders. You will be intrigued by the many details needed for a successful voyage. Elementary aged children will be fascinated when they step onto the wide, wooden deck.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiPvTDLpLCMtvu46fVSS1knkOO_cSCuuQwjr70L941Ouv_13UZ9PyuAkS4T84pIesBqikfeaJObcACvFeU_-IgDBffBnT_CzaiRjP8OK97PD523shD90S5RTX4Z2nM_-kS7oeNIoTNZbCJKCA7XPIpV4FlWt817t_FT6w0jo0yYRQ786bcPahQAYrKa-iGO/s1920/p2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1280" data-original-width="1920" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiPvTDLpLCMtvu46fVSS1knkOO_cSCuuQwjr70L941Ouv_13UZ9PyuAkS4T84pIesBqikfeaJObcACvFeU_-IgDBffBnT_CzaiRjP8OK97PD523shD90S5RTX4Z2nM_-kS7oeNIoTNZbCJKCA7XPIpV4FlWt817t_FT6w0jo0yYRQ786bcPahQAYrKa-iGO/w640-h426/p2.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><p></p><p>Known historically as a Tall Ship, the Pinta is a<i> replica</i> of one of the ships that sailed with Christopher Columbus. You can read the history and get as many (or few) details as you wish, but it's definitely worth a visit with your kids.</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4jvGxlxvdLE4xHhwbRn24MUdDquXIHE_6HrwmsG0bE8tCNzV0-kdCDSw3OeHflUw0FRyuGcQ_TK8xJA5PzK8Bq_C_jk35GMtEvSi7c8ERl3C8x4wS3eat29Sep5L8FywX-flPpQnrxDZ3MJV5SWGx8L_dSeXUdjxYIixla3TZf1LeCcJnAUz3IbrHxN7Z/s2798/p3.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2798" data-original-width="1873" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4jvGxlxvdLE4xHhwbRn24MUdDquXIHE_6HrwmsG0bE8tCNzV0-kdCDSw3OeHflUw0FRyuGcQ_TK8xJA5PzK8Bq_C_jk35GMtEvSi7c8ERl3C8x4wS3eat29Sep5L8FywX-flPpQnrxDZ3MJV5SWGx8L_dSeXUdjxYIixla3TZf1LeCcJnAUz3IbrHxN7Z/w268-h400/p3.jpg" width="268" /></a></div><p></p><p>My elementary aged children loved climbing all over the ship. Older kids will enjoy reading about how it was built and the way it was sailed, along with the historical details. </p><p>Younger ones will love the adventure and joy of participating in something from a different era.</p><p>The ship will be docked at Calhoun's on the River, 400 Neyland Drive, Knoxville, TN 37902 from<b> October 20-29, 2023</b>. Tours are open from <b>9-5 daily</b>, with the purchase of an <b>$8</b> ticket for Adults, <b>$6</b> for Children,<b> $7</b> for Seniors & Military. Children under 4 year of age are free. Tickets may be purchased at the ship and no advance reservation is required.</p><p>More information availalable @ https://ninapinta.org/</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjpnCkGhlupMdJzWl7KuqQMB-rVvB5uyH5Qn-cU9AFufdCaTpYIaSB70vxEqG89WPxLsMyfcPfqDg_7rQyWONTaKaRX-g45pDxOuBKKm43QYfoJkZLYRWapSsr5grOwZBv2IYZ0hyphenhyphenc23BY_3p73uQyaQx2SB3y7HG2Eydbq6wF5oV4eMcbttH73xsK7_qgB/s2560/p1.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1704" data-original-width="2560" height="266" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjpnCkGhlupMdJzWl7KuqQMB-rVvB5uyH5Qn-cU9AFufdCaTpYIaSB70vxEqG89WPxLsMyfcPfqDg_7rQyWONTaKaRX-g45pDxOuBKKm43QYfoJkZLYRWapSsr5grOwZBv2IYZ0hyphenhyphenc23BY_3p73uQyaQx2SB3y7HG2Eydbq6wF5oV4eMcbttH73xsK7_qgB/w400-h266/p1.jpeg" width="400" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjCjc8RpaWB1cJWADeB4zhKuIO4F-XtkRa6RkJpv9gvUzIcx9ipt5kCYgueC0ubL9c8QXcpOEi-zUmQCFwyLq1O-vmDhFHg7_y7AYAb2NCMvqbWAMduPUywAtL6AgoMHgYvt4eeT0_xv850eh7wXIvoqcH_GzS6kJBtrQmZRGN6z5iUYSoL6v2noAPYS697/s2798/p8.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1873" data-original-width="2798" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjCjc8RpaWB1cJWADeB4zhKuIO4F-XtkRa6RkJpv9gvUzIcx9ipt5kCYgueC0ubL9c8QXcpOEi-zUmQCFwyLq1O-vmDhFHg7_y7AYAb2NCMvqbWAMduPUywAtL6AgoMHgYvt4eeT0_xv850eh7wXIvoqcH_GzS6kJBtrQmZRGN6z5iUYSoL6v2noAPYS697/w400-h268/p8.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><p style="text-align: left;">https://www.visitknoxville.com/event/discover-tall-ship-pinta-in-knoxville-tn/25401/</p><div><br /></div></div><br /><p><br /></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-54473407553071321382023-09-07T08:41:00.000-04:002023-09-07T08:41:19.900-04:00Romance Your Husband While Raising Teens<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEho0XyUclhofDRdMo_ayPhxEw39Fnq_UCT0aNZh7fb-pmJvpMguyOffSMy6_qbYx9-_HySrXNHPCr0cGlvM6c9AbO4AF0fjuAUo-SUVSPbhQLiVgy_rQ-koTjdIzTLTtg1qKjxN4u6csWa_Ho9YdYuPog4LhzG7GVQRIPg16lseKB0z1gB0mmIwKrsCaqxa/s2942/Romance%2001.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2942" data-original-width="2206" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEho0XyUclhofDRdMo_ayPhxEw39Fnq_UCT0aNZh7fb-pmJvpMguyOffSMy6_qbYx9-_HySrXNHPCr0cGlvM6c9AbO4AF0fjuAUo-SUVSPbhQLiVgy_rQ-koTjdIzTLTtg1qKjxN4u6csWa_Ho9YdYuPog4LhzG7GVQRIPg16lseKB0z1gB0mmIwKrsCaqxa/w300-h400/Romance%2001.jpeg" width="300" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Actual footage or our teen in the background.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>How can we remain a couple while in the middle of parenting? It's a challenge at every stage of parenthood, and maybe it peaks in the teen years - I can't say, and it's probably different for everyone, but we find ourselves in the thick of parenting teenagers, so that is my perspective. <b>The teens are awesome, but my man has my heart so here is how I'm striving to communicate my affection.</b></p><p><b>Mini Date Night</b> - Take advantage of the newer independence that your teens have. Now you can drop them off for events, youth group or whatever. Use the hour or two without them to meet your mate for dinner. Don't run errands (at least not every time), get some quality time with your honey. Every now and then, eat dinner alone together at the table. Maybe light some candles. It's okay if the adolescents notice, they will appreciate the love your family has created. Personally, we try to have a lunch date weekly. </p><p><b>Lock the Door!</b> It's tough to relax with our man when we know any kids are home, but lock that door and enjoy some adult time without interruption. A back rub (or more) helps to keep connected during busy weeks and seasons. We can fool our little children, but with teenagers at home, use your locks! No matter your love language, it's important to enjoy some Sneaky Snuggle Time!</p><p><b>Laugh it Out!</b> Let yourself be lighthearted with your partner. Lately, we enjoy some parallel playtime together by scrolling the memes and reels on our individual phones. I'm particularly tickled by silly cats while my spouse seems amused by random children behaving badly. Whatever makes you laugh together, do more of that.</p><p><b>Create small rituals</b>. There is power in knowing you can count on someone. Little things like cleaning dishes together, walking the dogs each evening or morning smooches before parting ways. These gestures add up to create positive connections and reinforce the bond you have created. </p><p><b>Dream of a getaway.</b> Set a goal for a couple-only vacation and dream a bit. When you get a chance, start saving and make it happen. We are dreaming of London right now and while there are so many things ahead of that in priority, dreaming now means we can make it a goal someday. </p><p>Parenthood might throw us some challenges, but it also provides countless opportunities to nurture our relationship in creative and unexpected ways. From stealthy snuggle sessions to spontaneous dates when the moment is ripe, these light-hearted tips will help you keep the romance alive while you juggle curfews, boundaries and emerging freedoms. <strong>Embrace the changes and find joy in each moment to let your love story grow. </strong>You might find yourself growing closer to your partner at just the time your teen is exerting his or her independence.</p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-37974594848822922352023-08-21T10:05:00.002-04:002023-08-21T10:05:11.485-04:00When Your Strong Willed Child Becomes A Teen<p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuU_i46PQqoZKGOWHGCOGgI5yWWf8DR6tTnCJMJH1CiFuA-R5YXjaJxbEm8hsq4C3rvsOiG4woOTTW4Ybb1iQWYi0hRFgJoNxPeSYskcj0vbNHsxe_31BW8_tyEBTnbPsxPsdeEbPkeHnBmv0CR3QGoc6fZVcN711RwrVQc2y9qV8lT2VWIx7hsHW_wsN3/s1365/Teen%20Defiant.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="768" data-original-width="1365" height="360" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuU_i46PQqoZKGOWHGCOGgI5yWWf8DR6tTnCJMJH1CiFuA-R5YXjaJxbEm8hsq4C3rvsOiG4woOTTW4Ybb1iQWYi0hRFgJoNxPeSYskcj0vbNHsxe_31BW8_tyEBTnbPsxPsdeEbPkeHnBmv0CR3QGoc6fZVcN711RwrVQc2y9qV8lT2VWIx7hsHW_wsN3/w640-h360/Teen%20Defiant.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br />Very early, it becomes obvious when you have a strong willed child. There are many wonderful character traits that come along with being strong willed and at the same time, it can be <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">exhausting</em> as a parent. Then the tweens and teen years arrive and everything gets more intense. The arrival of adolescence magnifies the willfulness because the normal emerging independence joins with the already established willful ways of your child.<p></p><h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #63cfdb; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 22px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 30px; margin: 27px 0px 17px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">All feelings are intensified, including independence and self-determination.</span></h3><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;">As the adult, it’s our job to find the best way to deescalate the feelings. Strong willed teens believe they know best for themselves. They are fiercely independent. When your teen senses that you are not trusting their own decision-making process, they will push back. We do not want to create a dynamic of constant conflict, so it’s essential to win the trust and heart of our teens.<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />To create connection, consider giving your cranky teen exactly what they are craving: power. Be ready for more pushing of boundaries and decide in advance what is worth the battle. Are clothes going to be a daily argument or can you let that go and hold the line on something more important like grades?</p><div class="td-a-rec td-a-rec-id-content_inlineright tdi_3 td_block_template_5" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; float: right; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; text-align: center;"><div class="g g-10" style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 1; margin: 6px auto 15px 21px; overflow: hidden; padding: 0px; zoom: 1;"><div class="g-single a-20" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><a href="http://www.supersmiles4kids.com/" rel="nofollow" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: border-box; color: #fea02f; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank"></a><img class="pixel" height="0" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAP///////yH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; display: block; height: 0px !important; margin-bottom: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 0px !important;" width="0" /></div></div></div><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;">Maybe you are strong willed too and you’re doing everything you can to hold onto power in the relationship. Do you fear giving away power will backfire and your teen will suffer or reject you and your values? It’s possible, and this is where we must face our own limitations. <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">This is the crucial time when it’s more important to focus on relationship than rules.</span><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />The only person who you can control is you. Practice being the centered, patient parent that you long to be. Take an extra breath and try to not react. What your teen is expressing isn’t about you at all; in fact, you are their safe place to let our the frustration and pain experienced at that moment. You have the privilege to help them direct their actions and attitude to something more healthy. You get to reframe what they are experiencing and remind him or her that it is temporary. Along the way, you become the trusted guide they come to when hard things happen.</p><h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #63cfdb; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 22px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 30px; margin: 27px 0px 17px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Your strong willed teen has a deep need for control and independence. You can fight that or fuel him or her with responsibility.</span></h3><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;">Give this teen the power to earn, to strive and to fail. Let their struggle become an ally to improve and be a better human. Avoid getting into a direct power struggle with him or her; instead, demonstrate that you can compromise and you value their input. Be flexible on the curfew. Say yes as much as possible. Determine requirements based on what is moral versus your own preference. Ask questions like, “What does your conscious say?,” “How would you feel?,” “Would you be alright if everyone knew you did this?” These questions help shape decision making without taking over.</p><p data-slot-rendered-content="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;">Strong willed teens are leaders, courageous and willing to stand alone and steer their own course. They are creative and innovative in finding solutions. Vocalize your approval with pride in their leadership and joy in their adventures. Encourage that spirit to persist in challenges and to overcome hard things. These are traits that will serve your young person well in the future.<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />When you see your teen moving in a direction that concerns you, raise that concern before you try to coerce. Coercion and enforcement will create resistance. I often think of the reverse psychology my own mama used as a trick of the trade. And dad still tells me, “I know you will do what is right/best.” I didn’t always make the best choice, but I knew I was responsible for the outcome. Be sure to communicate that you are on their side and demonstrate empathy even when discipline is required. Keep the relationship mutually beneficial so that your teen stays invested in the bond you have created. Lean into that bond, especially when there is tension. <br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Sometimes, our strong willed ones learn through failure and tough consequences. More than ever, this is when to walk alongside them, support and encourage. “I told you so,” doesn’t work, but “Next time you will do better,” does. It reminds your teen that you believe in him or her and that you are on their side.</p><h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #63cfdb; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 22px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 30px; margin: 27px 0px 17px; text-align: center;"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">It’s tough to raise a strong willed teen, especially when you’re a strong willed adult. Sometimes we both mess up and so it’s important to reestablish a bond. She’s got to know I’m with her and for her, no matter what. My sister, a licensed therapist, taught me that it’s crucial to keep the connection regardless of anything else that happens during these sometimes tumultuous years.</span></em></h3><div><em style="box-sizing: border-box;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6N4HEM7Y5JP6amUEAN1fqwpnP2bFsjS_9nu6kL2XnKq7KXeswZVettZ-4auFFIg3b8jxvvjqQIPJ7HuvVS4vMCp_4mhWKNrRHRu2l9m9OdYGQsBZTqn0aFNNscNsSehQaao1gpIciEoSt0KAaogRnzxPBMcH_BhdVHEDvYiujDHSML8JGZsrw2nkN9WfP/s5893/Teen%20and%20Mom.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3929" data-original-width="5893" height="266" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6N4HEM7Y5JP6amUEAN1fqwpnP2bFsjS_9nu6kL2XnKq7KXeswZVettZ-4auFFIg3b8jxvvjqQIPJ7HuvVS4vMCp_4mhWKNrRHRu2l9m9OdYGQsBZTqn0aFNNscNsSehQaao1gpIciEoSt0KAaogRnzxPBMcH_BhdVHEDvYiujDHSML8JGZsrw2nkN9WfP/w400-h266/Teen%20and%20Mom.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br /><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;"><br /></span></em></div>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-82533068053665324452023-07-08T14:58:00.003-04:002023-07-08T14:58:00.135-04:00The Guide to Getting Teens to Spend Time with Mom (Because They Totally Want To)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgntrWX9kQ6zcKxeC5vU0CJ7VAdk4aLa0JT3PXJV-eeA8jg6za8abKcDmF4F5aGg4P86HNnVir4IXMWqBFXMA0lBlfMiPGo5HSVWWGwp5_VRXiizxnNpeaRg4ksnBeNHThXan8chE87aUbg9HP4wOoy2O2UpRJRCjS6vrzzA_CoklwnM84FunEu46dkMrYH/s2048/Teens%20&%20mom.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgntrWX9kQ6zcKxeC5vU0CJ7VAdk4aLa0JT3PXJV-eeA8jg6za8abKcDmF4F5aGg4P86HNnVir4IXMWqBFXMA0lBlfMiPGo5HSVWWGwp5_VRXiizxnNpeaRg4ksnBeNHThXan8chE87aUbg9HP4wOoy2O2UpRJRCjS6vrzzA_CoklwnM84FunEu46dkMrYH/w640-h480/Teens%20&%20mom.jpeg" width="640" /></a></div><p>Fellow mothers of teenagers, I join you in the quest to forge more time with our young people. I hope we can together unlock the secrets of nudging our moody, phone-obsessed, self-isolating teens to spend quality time with dear old mom. The following time-tested tactics are guaranteed to prompt your teens to jump at the chance to hang out with you. Get ready for the bonding!</p><p>Be Extra Cool. To win the heart of your teenage offspring, you must achieve peak coolness. Dress in the most current and trendiest styles, and appropriately use slang from their generation. Insert as many hip references as possible into your conversations. Nothing screams "quality time with mom" quite so loudly as cringe-worthy attempts to fit in.</p><p>Totally Compete for Their Attention. Seriously, teens love it when you engage in a fierce battle for their undivided attention. Ignore their eye rolls and exasperated sighs as you remind them why you're more fun than their friends. Maybe you can challenge them to a dance-off? Try an extreme sport? Be sure to capture it all on video so that you can share these ventures with their social circle.</p><p>Employ Guilt Tripping Galore. Use the time-honored techniques of emotional manipulation to coerce your teen into being with you. Remind him or her of all the sleepless nights you spent changing diapers or all the hours spent as a chauffeur to sports and clubs. Recount the endless sacrifices made for their happiness. Squeeze out a tear or two, but don't go overboard or they might just start avoiding you altogether.</p><p>Bust out the Bribery Bonanza. This is my personal go-to strategy. Why rely on family love when you can purchase your teen's affection? Promise outrageous rewards, shower her with beauty perks like a mani-pedi date, or splurge on a steak dinner for your guy. Watch as they suddenly find time to hang out with you when you include the fleeting pleasures they beg for.</p><p>Go for the Surprise Ambush. Nothing screams "I love you, Mom" like a surprise intrusion of your teen's sacred alone time. Burst into their room unannounced, armed with board games, photo albums or baby videos. Right when they think the day is theirs for doing nothing, inform them of the hike you have planned. They will be mortified, but deep down they will love you for always being there.</p><p>Declare Delightful Chores. Transform mundane household tasks into unforgettable bonding when you do it together. Insist that your teen complete the chores by a certain time...and then jump in to offer assistance. Who needs to spend cozy time at the coffee shop when you can scrub toilets together? This will certainly insure that your adolescent child begs for more of the Surprise Ambush. Plus, it will build character, right?</p><p>Instate a Tech Time-Out. Teach our young people the art of face-to-face conversation. Be prepared for a wave of complaints and sulking fits and hope they aren't bashing you across social media platforms. Aim for a short trip out for ice cream or Sonic sans tech.</p><p>We love our teens but sometimes we struggle to find ways of connecting. Keep trying, it's is worth it. When we keep showing up and let them know we care, we demonstrate that we are trustworthy and dependable. Let your teen know you don't always know how to be in their world, but you're trying - and then keep engaging them every single day. </p><p>These tactics are guaranteed to annoy the teen in your life, but in truth they may also create a few moments of connection amidst the hormonal chaos. Good luck, mom as you embark of the epic journey or mother-teen bonding!</p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-79641171512701792432023-06-12T08:51:00.000-04:002023-06-12T08:51:05.987-04:00Capturing Moments, Cherishing Memories: The Power of a Journal<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3x5lDh4wx5CBNeNqItbsmilLvwjFbqiKsFBMPcwjgnzQq3P-i6L6SnP0WDqPIWGhna6tQB5wznA03idiEJmHWWMcP5hKxWMBomGl4Lylka-XImfCZPG-_xFeOV8sbOVGH2s05OQ9ZeYu94TZtD8ZCtTO9bwof-RIH5yD-foTH-81RLxua-IuL4wiZqQ/s6000/Journal%203.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4000" data-original-width="6000" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3x5lDh4wx5CBNeNqItbsmilLvwjFbqiKsFBMPcwjgnzQq3P-i6L6SnP0WDqPIWGhna6tQB5wznA03idiEJmHWWMcP5hKxWMBomGl4Lylka-XImfCZPG-_xFeOV8sbOVGH2s05OQ9ZeYu94TZtD8ZCtTO9bwof-RIH5yD-foTH-81RLxua-IuL4wiZqQ/w640-h426/Journal%203.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br />Can we agree that life can serve up challenges and sometimes we are just trying to get through the day, only to do it all over again tomorrow? I think we all find ourselves on this kind of treadmill at times, but experts agree that there is a way to find more meaning through self reflection that helps us be more present and aware. Keeping a journal will foster personal awareness when we recognize and are able to express feelings, even just to yourself. Writing out our thoughts is known to enhance clarity and boost creativity. <p></p><p>Journaling may sound like a chore or old-school homework task, and that is alright - I won't pretend that everyone will connect with this exercise. <b>It one skill in the tool box of life management practices that can help you identify feelings, process experiences and notice improvement over time. </b></p><p>Diary-style, memoir or even rote reporting are ways to document your thoughts. Personally, what makes its way into my journals are the events of my day along with how I feel in the moment or what I'm longing for. <b>When an experience, conversation or message captures my heart, then I want to memorialize that by noting it in my journal.</b> To be authentic, do not write for an audience, let your heart flow freely and begin to process your inner mind. Self reflection provides a way to unfold our experiences, challenges, goals and accomplishments. We can let go of pent up emotions, grieve losses or identify those things we realize aren't healthy in our lives. Journaling releases stress and helps us work through emotions as we untangle our mix of feelings.</p><p>I don't make myself disciplined in writing every single day, although there are seasons where that happens. I write when an experience, good or bad, moves me. I write when I come to understand someone in a new way. I write to remember my values while in the middle of struggles. Mostly, I write because my thoughts become more clear when I put them to paper. </p><p>I have been keeping a pen and paper journal of some form for decades. Journaling is a key element for me when a decision is needed and I'm having a difficult time knowing the best direction to take. My journals have helped me to track thoughts, feelings and patterns over time. I've been able to observe progress and to identify pitfalls that lead to repeating negative patterns. I've seen where difficult changes have produced more of what I desire, and so been inspired to endure new difficult challenges with confidence that the outcome is worth the effort. The process of change is more trusted when I have record of past success.</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizt9VeqOsGH0i7PT1nQcnxLun_5Ef76ewODMZDynj6a5FHh_qaO-9B-6_zc5VMGQZtoGJzfQZoU73ou-rhSyGr_mVfxYGk0aZ6Q7hHxYOIPdIiredg2rycHoj23ZaZEJuuN7ACkcoMMXgNMlBiVlLZO0VPvU_K9Jbv0M10O-zp2HpDzdheBQUEXp4tBA/s5760/Journal%202.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3840" data-original-width="5760" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizt9VeqOsGH0i7PT1nQcnxLun_5Ef76ewODMZDynj6a5FHh_qaO-9B-6_zc5VMGQZtoGJzfQZoU73ou-rhSyGr_mVfxYGk0aZ6Q7hHxYOIPdIiredg2rycHoj23ZaZEJuuN7ACkcoMMXgNMlBiVlLZO0VPvU_K9Jbv0M10O-zp2HpDzdheBQUEXp4tBA/s320/Journal%202.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>Journaling has evolved with technology. Personal blogs and chatrooms often act like a journal, with the addition of feedback from readers. Apps that encourage a photo-a-day create a visual journal that can trigger so many memories when looking back through the images. Bullet-journals are a quick and simple way to mind-dump and provide structure, or not, depending on what works for you.<p></p><p>If you're looking for a way to express yourself and become more mindful of your own thoughts and experience, give journaling a try. It might help to talk with a friend and agree to write once a week, then keep one another accountable. Start with a Gratitude Journal, where you can focus on the positive. Other prompts: </p><p><span style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18.75px;">What is your favorite thing about yourself today?</span></p><p><span style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18.75px;">What was one thing you wish you had done differently today?</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18.75px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18.75px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18.75px;">Who in your life makes you feel safest, and why?</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18.75px;"> </span></p><p><b><span style="color: #00ccff;">Let a journal take away some of your mental load by releasing the nagging worries and noticing the positive in your day</span>.</b> Capture your joy and keep record of the way life is unfolding. Notice the rhythms of your days and note the comfort of knowing yourself.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgrNGotNtmk9HZQfDHjUFbPEADW6VZUuPL65ArwXVNuAbR5ShOOOGjoIoZ6pSbq2kMjFG_shYYqjvRGcJCMxZwNyA5Xe2QIKurJFfvHHe6eWOP1_CWZCMMTPZn-N25ZX4zsM6a6Un-YYhqkYud7rBVGaHti7I2v0aI_D1E3hIvhqfk5xcIcbOHv9WBHww/s1920/Journal%201.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1280" data-original-width="1920" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgrNGotNtmk9HZQfDHjUFbPEADW6VZUuPL65ArwXVNuAbR5ShOOOGjoIoZ6pSbq2kMjFG_shYYqjvRGcJCMxZwNyA5Xe2QIKurJFfvHHe6eWOP1_CWZCMMTPZn-N25ZX4zsM6a6Un-YYhqkYud7rBVGaHti7I2v0aI_D1E3hIvhqfk5xcIcbOHv9WBHww/w640-h426/Journal%201.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p><p></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-17320425438506907962023-05-09T11:53:00.002-04:002023-05-09T11:53:24.745-04:00The Lifelong Gift of Motherhood<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYC7RtLrRg29-kaIibNpCVTJ9nkK8BiNeG7AbJwuQIn0RcXMlPvQLblxyTAFVA_zcJXeNsOvCV_xS5eyn2Rg9ADCHaOUdS4tMuCBx4CfkVJROwSpv9CAbb4dN4RCZfiGaaePdCmTkLKRkCyXr-ULETse8beAY3Oh-ZfIR8LkbsasIh3wgMiDkTm-Q-9A/s1656/Mommy%20&%20Jake.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1242" data-original-width="1656" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYC7RtLrRg29-kaIibNpCVTJ9nkK8BiNeG7AbJwuQIn0RcXMlPvQLblxyTAFVA_zcJXeNsOvCV_xS5eyn2Rg9ADCHaOUdS4tMuCBx4CfkVJROwSpv9CAbb4dN4RCZfiGaaePdCmTkLKRkCyXr-ULETse8beAY3Oh-ZfIR8LkbsasIh3wgMiDkTm-Q-9A/w640-h480/Mommy%20&%20Jake.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br />From the moment we learn a baby is on the way, our lives are forever changed. As mothers, we take on the responsibility of nurturing and shaping a life, putting the needs of our children first and supporting them through every season of their development. And while motherhood can be challenging, (is certainly exhausting), the lifelong value it brings is immeasurable.<p></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTemVR0-ttkXXtAj2t90ew0rBNrM6blhp7RvuQy9yFETAdByFur-FVRrckn1ZTlhz53k3_odMDST36NCcQIrMhjKuQRki2YZz6Dhirkzy3yEoaBK_iBb-uihqfkru5mGxX30IGSMBeLE9-F1DWOt6pTIrUgcbbapV0Zi0H2pqwBRBZi2dkJUqa_jfopQ/s1196/Mothers%20Day.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1196" data-original-width="800" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTemVR0-ttkXXtAj2t90ew0rBNrM6blhp7RvuQy9yFETAdByFur-FVRrckn1ZTlhz53k3_odMDST36NCcQIrMhjKuQRki2YZz6Dhirkzy3yEoaBK_iBb-uihqfkru5mGxX30IGSMBeLE9-F1DWOt6pTIrUgcbbapV0Zi0H2pqwBRBZi2dkJUqa_jfopQ/s320/Mothers%20Day.png" width="214" /></a></div>One gift of motherhood is the deep sense of purpose that carries meaning. Raising a child is one of the most fulfilling roles in my life and one of the most important in our society. We shape our community and make an impact in the future by the way we guide our children. Motherhood has taught me to look beyond my natural tendencies and strive to be my best self. We learn the art of sacrifice, patience, listening skills and juggling multiple tasks. <p></p><p>Through motherhood, we find a sense of community and connection. We share bonds with other women in the same experience and those who have more history and wisdom. We turn to each other for support and encouragement, along with practical advice. There is a sense of sisterhood that becomes a source of strength and comfort during times of need. Then, we get to become the resource for the mothers in the stages through which we have already walked.</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0L6kyE92QqGp12--SBI7p5lXVGH0gm9vGFrgqIpkXALgt6WdG4QmYMHCoSlWI9eRbAoFtU_dUAgqvyLxlxgrAaVyky_mrwJ29B4eYMFI-II4K05NtSUDuv7-qtTzolC_9u2b80Ipwic0pXMLNJIIpEGMOVZx-3y5PGP_5rsFDbv5qhJITdKH8JCysag/s7952/Missy%20+%20Kids%202021.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5304" data-original-width="7952" height="266" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0L6kyE92QqGp12--SBI7p5lXVGH0gm9vGFrgqIpkXALgt6WdG4QmYMHCoSlWI9eRbAoFtU_dUAgqvyLxlxgrAaVyky_mrwJ29B4eYMFI-II4K05NtSUDuv7-qtTzolC_9u2b80Ipwic0pXMLNJIIpEGMOVZx-3y5PGP_5rsFDbv5qhJITdKH8JCysag/w400-h266/Missy%20+%20Kids%202021.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br />This lasting sense of legacy is perhaps the greatest gift I have received through motherhood. Through my role as a mama, mommy, mom and mother I am impacting the world in way that reach beyond my sphere. I'm able to share values, beliefs and skills that have a ripple effect and influence many. My own living heritage is reflecting me out in the world. My children will far outshine my own influence, yet in raising them my own legacy is amplified.<p></p><p>My kids are not the center of my universe, and that wouldn't be healthy, but I know my life is forever enriched by their presence and the gift I have been given through experiencing Motherhood. </p><p>Mother's Day is coming. Whether your crew lavishes you or keeps things simple, it's a good day to take the time to note the gifts you have received on the journey of motherhood. And maybe let your own, or another mom in your life know that she is a great gift to you.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7gN5ejqj9RrYpiSciTmcJyKks4I07cIdW7KD34ZfmmzS8luoDSATRtSVkynSZ0ZXtVhYmskk79RK224bH5vpPAVV3JmJNTxagtjbwpv8yp_yNlB7_0P7_BYObsHJ1C6qA-dkzVwf_PstN0FrOnl1nTi4yXNxus-447nQqbiw55GV_Iis4I4ZmUWrHuw/s2098/Missy%20&%20Kids%203.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1498" data-original-width="2098" height="456" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7gN5ejqj9RrYpiSciTmcJyKks4I07cIdW7KD34ZfmmzS8luoDSATRtSVkynSZ0ZXtVhYmskk79RK224bH5vpPAVV3JmJNTxagtjbwpv8yp_yNlB7_0P7_BYObsHJ1C6qA-dkzVwf_PstN0FrOnl1nTi4yXNxus-447nQqbiw55GV_Iis4I4ZmUWrHuw/w640-h456/Missy%20&%20Kids%203.jpeg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-49209394701784889622023-04-12T10:25:00.000-04:002023-04-12T10:25:46.708-04:00Spiritual Traditions Add Value to Your Family<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnhipT_r8rNlGD6UzLuSkzvdfjXZMQDxByphbw4PL5svMwKOGFX1bllzf5KtB4PbXXeYNMkcyBzcg9by3cy_LYOnZ4ghLyTpW3-RW5LlcK1eLT401bDb_r-SWc5Af_Y0S9EMHQxC0vhvVaVmXnXizKNxRUqqPUPDDBnULQw2ZeZndFM-AQ0FJQ8f-how/s6720/Easter%20Devotions.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4480" data-original-width="6720" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnhipT_r8rNlGD6UzLuSkzvdfjXZMQDxByphbw4PL5svMwKOGFX1bllzf5KtB4PbXXeYNMkcyBzcg9by3cy_LYOnZ4ghLyTpW3-RW5LlcK1eLT401bDb_r-SWc5Af_Y0S9EMHQxC0vhvVaVmXnXizKNxRUqqPUPDDBnULQw2ZeZndFM-AQ0FJQ8f-how/w640-h426/Easter%20Devotions.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br />Our society is changing rapidly and the traditional spiritual traditions that were once standard are increasingly disappearing from daily life. For our family, <b>we have chosen to be intentional about spiritual practices and I have found them to have great value</b>. Each of our kids knows that it is part of our family culture and identity. <p></p><p>Tradition is a large part of what connect family members together and bridges the span of one generation to another. The larger community of faith who gather in churches, community groups and classes provide the village we seek when raising a new generation. The extra support found by including a spiritual dimension to your parenting brings benefits to your child that will shape their outlook into adulthood.</p><p><b></b></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><b><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjG8gN6vZJtAjFuEW-6S9gCgHWS9xrQacj5UbhBNe8e2akoaDdJ4G_JUQBnm7fRHZbBVgqpCf0mMU7EyDqgk9XFuvXwi5PZGpSe_wzWseiUuqIJiZx3FhBYKq2OPgPsVIlkl8Mk0kMwBh3eTtkI1el4vDI_QWyrFJIL67_aLgtKqRq_TWHkQVqy5jTGQg/s1920/Easter%20Image%202.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1920" data-original-width="1280" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjG8gN6vZJtAjFuEW-6S9gCgHWS9xrQacj5UbhBNe8e2akoaDdJ4G_JUQBnm7fRHZbBVgqpCf0mMU7EyDqgk9XFuvXwi5PZGpSe_wzWseiUuqIJiZx3FhBYKq2OPgPsVIlkl8Mk0kMwBh3eTtkI1el4vDI_QWyrFJIL67_aLgtKqRq_TWHkQVqy5jTGQg/w266-h400/Easter%20Image%202.jpg" width="266" /></a></b></div><b>Kids need to think beyond themselves</b>. The last thing I want is to raise humans that think only of self. Traditions like tithing, giving to those in need, sharing with our neighbors and pausing to give gratitude are traits that I hope remain with my children throughout their lives. Part of my parenting practice is to refine the character in my kids. I want them to have role models and develop habits (traditions) that remind them of why character matters. Spiritual traditions are tangible reminders of the values you desire to instill.<p></p><p>Children, kids and teens (along with parents) all gain <b>mental health benefits</b> of shared experiences. The communal experiences of working toward a goal, saving for project and serving together create a family culture of togetherness. Whatever my kids face in the future, I want them to know we are going to face it together and I've got their back. I want them to know there is a community of fellow families who will show up when the hard days come. </p><p>Spirituality provides a more <b>grounded sense of self as part of larger story</b>, minimizing the impact of social media, popularity and the ups and downs of a good vs. bad day. Children who possess spiritual aspects in their life adopt greater meaning as part of their identity. The principles that we provide become a scaffold for their own emerging morality.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0sc21SIoKyzTrf4IZkrFnPgMWuU4L1EMqohvfKATt3NVRJ5wpGnVWLTDoPTnDPrsjGw9nUg6uQGl_aMogT5O3fve_EtQiB7lgKAJCiu4jeNQHQDj3Hx8IJJIxMe4sk4Yfexn4ckijSD8WEwAdn6fOfwwK3w08gBN--qR0eyV_cl6xV_pzQ46XycEVHg/s5568/Easter%20Cross.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3712" data-original-width="5568" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi0sc21SIoKyzTrf4IZkrFnPgMWuU4L1EMqohvfKATt3NVRJ5wpGnVWLTDoPTnDPrsjGw9nUg6uQGl_aMogT5O3fve_EtQiB7lgKAJCiu4jeNQHQDj3Hx8IJJIxMe4sk4Yfexn4ckijSD8WEwAdn6fOfwwK3w08gBN--qR0eyV_cl6xV_pzQ46XycEVHg/w640-h426/Easter%20Cross.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><p>Finally, research demonstrates that children raised with spiritual traditions describe themselves as happier, have a more positive outlook on life and handle trauma with greater resilience. Spiritual practices like prayer, meditation, giving, serving and learning or worshiping together add predictability and structure in our ever-changing culture. </p><p><u>A Few Practices for Any Day</u>:</p><p>- Keep a gratitude journal as a family. You can write each day, or as you identify experience for which a family member is grateful. Mom, you can help your little ones learn to be thankful and write it down for them. As kids get older, let them have access to write their own gratitude thoughts.</p><p>- Attend church together, and find a place to serve. Volunteer to deliver meals or work at shelter.</p><p>- Let your children see you give away something you value to another. This could be time, clothing, money, etc. When they are old enough, encourage your child to give, as well. </p><p>- Attend a traditional sedar meal or participate in communion as a family.</p><p>- Read together about spiritual matters. My personal favorite has bee "<a href="<a href="https://www.amazon.com/The-Jesus-Storybook-Bible-audiobook/dp/B002R85KEE?keywords=jesus+storybook+bible&qid=1680710800&sprefix=jesus+stor%2Caps%2C124&sr=8-1&linkCode=li1&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=69113a7eb9ef570747a06714173143b0&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B002R85KEE&Format=_SL110_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" ></a><img src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li1&o=1&a=B002R85KEE" width="1" height="1" border="0" alt="" style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" /> " target="_blank">The Jesus Storybook Bible</a>," and we usually read it together at mealtime (it was the only time I could get all the kiddos together and quiet). </p><p>There are many ways to communicate what is important and to create family traditions. Help shape your child's identity for a lifetime with timely values that remain relevant. Spiritual practices are a way that continues to keep your children connected and provide a constant source truth in our changing world. </p><p><b>How does your family include spiritual traditions in your family life?</b></p><p>Extra Reading -</p><p>From Forbes: <a href="https://www.forbes.com/sites/nicolefisher/2019/03/29/science-says-religion-is-good-for-your-health/?sh=1e1878983a12" target="_blank">Science Says Religion is Good For Your Health</a></p><p>Institute for Family Studies: <a href="https://ifstudies.org/blog/religious-upbringing-and-adolescence" target="_blank">Religious Upbringing and Adolescence</a> </p><p><br /></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-35148187531364229842023-03-08T09:06:00.000-05:002023-03-08T09:06:22.069-05:00Help Your Daughter Find, and Use Her Voice<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_wM6vw_uoEGk6mP2fIgx-6Itr70iT9UVXimbrRbRSUnBKWAAdbuG6V-D3dcjmdhEFU6BHUFhl2TML3j594BQXUEGuDuaIMK1lzmzidqAgdL2TNDttysakxLJ0tBk7D665SK2kYzTCjQG-SXi3AQz7XuxBb-7IAn8JX6TjN2V4DNSmUbTvb9PgS6iLLA/s5120/Confident%20Girl.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3413" data-original-width="5120" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_wM6vw_uoEGk6mP2fIgx-6Itr70iT9UVXimbrRbRSUnBKWAAdbuG6V-D3dcjmdhEFU6BHUFhl2TML3j594BQXUEGuDuaIMK1lzmzidqAgdL2TNDttysakxLJ0tBk7D665SK2kYzTCjQG-SXi3AQz7XuxBb-7IAn8JX6TjN2V4DNSmUbTvb9PgS6iLLA/w640-h426/Confident%20Girl.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><p>I have an adult friend who has incredible intuition and is able to respond with confidence and grit to unexpected circumstances. I admire the way she trusts her own instinct and can articulate position or needs. She has learned to honor the voice inside as she navigates the unpredictability of daily life. I want this for myself, but even more so, I want my daughter to have this confidence. </p><p>When our girls are young, we often encourage them to go along: with our plan, with our schedule, with our likes/preferences/program. Compliance has its benefits, resilience has rewards. Yes, we need to get through the morning routine in a reasonable manner, but sometimes we squelch the opinions of our girls by taking away too many choices. It's easy to become a bulldozer in my quest to just get to the next task or to miss the blooming interest in something new. The balance is tough to achieve, but it's worth the effort to cultivate your daughter's voice.\</p><p>I don't want the extremes of a rude, harsh, demanding and mean daughter NOR a kind, soft girl who isn't equipped to stand up for what she needs or those who are weak. My goal is to teach my daughter to trust her instinct and to gauge a situation based on truth and not emotions. </p><p><b>Give her skills of tact and courtesy, while remaining assertive</b>. Make sure she knows to respect all people, to use a voice that demonstrates understanding and yet allows her to disagree or step back. Teaching the tried and true methods of polite interaction (like please, thank you, not interrupting) will elevate your daughter's standing with others. We are polite because it communicates respect given to others. That respect is then reciprocated and gives your daughter tools for speaking in a way that others will honor.</p><p><b>Does your daughter have permission to say no?</b> "Respect the no," is a key phrase in our home as we learn boundaries among siblings. Let your daughter say no to physical touch, to playing with a friend or even to eating when she isn't hungry. This teaches her that her desires matter and to listen to herself and determine what she really wants.</p><p><b>Celebrate the unique attributes of your daughter</b>. Her freckles, willowy frame or snorty laugh all make your daughter wonderful in her very own way. Help her to see and own the quirks that make her stand out. Build her confidence in every way possible, especially in those years before she begins to compare herself to others and social media. As she grows, notice what she likes about herself, and emphasize those traits. Confidence is a platform for helping our girls through the rough and tumble years ahead. </p><p>Let your daughter know that while courtesy is always appreciated, she has permission to be blunt when you feel unsafe. <b>It's alright to be rude to someone hurting you.</b> In our effort to raise polite girls, sometimes we take away their ability to speak out when feeling violated. </p><p><b>Let her know she doesn't have to be perfect</b>. We all make mistakes. We don't start out being good at a sport or art or in the club. Most of us start at the bottom and rise through hard work and practice. Praise the effort and the commitment as those are the traits that will carry her through so many new experiences in life.</p><p>The greatest impact is made through kindness. All of us get into a situation where there is a power play among a team or group. Speak up for others and for what she believes is right. Even if that isn't the way a decision goes, encourage her to voice what she feels is important in a respectful and clear way. We can't always impact change, but letting your daughter be heard goes far in teaching her that her thoughts are important. Even when there is conflict, <b>others will notice when your girl can articulate her thoughts with kindness.</b></p><p>Another way we prompt our daughters to use their voice, is to <b>step back when it's time for her to step forward.</b> As your girl becomes an adolescent, it's time to encourage her to be responsible in new ways. Let her contact the teacher regarding help. Give her the contact info to make her own appointment. Go with her to set up her own bank account and give her the controls to manage her own money. </p><p>Let her know that you have confidence in her that she can handle these things. Remind her that you believe she is capable, and that you are there to step in when and if she needs the extra support. "You will make the right choice," is a powerful phrase. At each stage and season, you can train your daughter to honor herself with age-appropriate choices.</p><p>There are so many ways we can empower our daughters to use their mind and impact their world, from the mundane daily choices like clothes and hair to things with greater consequence like class schedules and friendships. It can be scary to let go of the control we think we have. Like you, I want the best for my daughter and part of that is that I hope she will trust herself and to value her own thoughts and feelings. The only way to honor those, is to be willing to listen and learn alongside her as she finds her voice and begins to use it. </p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-66025042815850385792023-02-09T12:49:00.000-05:002023-02-09T12:49:18.991-05:00Love Your Teens So They Can Feel It!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPJVHb4_CPvJCTIBktsSxAaqLjXXHiHrWjPdP1FJFObmhJ-ntnAxQvZu_onQQdSHD20psoDVDDnUACZrsR8x2h_NRmgTHcCyyf7fIN632Q5o4m8OXeakmBp9LwsCCzATGeDn3iul6peHdcTGAXL2OBkRm9OlCNojtDJSMU1kPMQDvwvNa_zchMaJlViA/s5645/Valentine%201.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3725" data-original-width="5645" height="422" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPJVHb4_CPvJCTIBktsSxAaqLjXXHiHrWjPdP1FJFObmhJ-ntnAxQvZu_onQQdSHD20psoDVDDnUACZrsR8x2h_NRmgTHcCyyf7fIN632Q5o4m8OXeakmBp9LwsCCzATGeDn3iul6peHdcTGAXL2OBkRm9OlCNojtDJSMU1kPMQDvwvNa_zchMaJlViA/w640-h422/Valentine%201.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;">It's easy to love our little ones but when our kiddos emerge into adolescence, we might not be sure how to communicate the love that still exists for them in such a big way. We must learn how to give it in the way they can receive it. More than ever, feeling loved and accepted at home in important. Let Valentine's be the motivation you need to make sure your teen never questions the love you have for him or her. It's a time to have a simple celebration, no matter the age of your kiddos!</span></div><p><span style="color: #ff00fe;"><b>Go ahead, get the fun treats.</b> </span> Even sullen sons or moody daughters will enjoy their favorite chocolate, cookies or cupcakes. The pressures of school and peers are constant, so be their soft place to land and constant encourager. Simple gestures remind your teen that you are for him, you notice and care. If you have a driver, a $10 gift card for their favorite fast food or coffee is another fun idea.</p><p>Teenagers know we are not cool, so go in the opposite direction and be extra-cheesy. They may roll the eyes, but deep down every teen likes attention and focus. Don't make too big a deal, but some chocolate for your guy or fresh flowers for your girl are just enough to remind them they are special. If you're lucky enough to have the evening together, splurge on a heart-shaped pizza or chicken mini heart platter.</p><p><span style="color: #ff00fe;"><b></b></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ff00fe;"><b><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhVtkF1rk2C6eoSmkbRJjvHeOeFkm2-d-BOXa6yTRQUkmeGAWpKfQDBCHBQyT2uaguRPfqlsjKTYNWy7GpaH7mpFSIyGjcLmi8Ied34cUh_FfNbwI-bDWWoJeO8qOKwpzm1Yx7TxLDEqLHj_VEJxpFj3HhlLNJPCIlDCZXNI4g0iT0ADzFLiVbXhXZQpQ/s6000/Valentine%202.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="6000" data-original-width="4000" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhVtkF1rk2C6eoSmkbRJjvHeOeFkm2-d-BOXa6yTRQUkmeGAWpKfQDBCHBQyT2uaguRPfqlsjKTYNWy7GpaH7mpFSIyGjcLmi8Ied34cUh_FfNbwI-bDWWoJeO8qOKwpzm1Yx7TxLDEqLHj_VEJxpFj3HhlLNJPCIlDCZXNI4g0iT0ADzFLiVbXhXZQpQ/s320/Valentine%202.jpg" width="213" /></a></b></span></div><span style="color: #ff00fe;"><b>Call out the best in who they are.</b></span> It's easy to praise our kids for what they do, so make sure you name the traits that you admire in who they are. I love your optimism and they way you see the best in each situation. I respect the way you are compassionate to others. Your joyful heart is so nice to be around!<p></p><p><b><span style="color: #ff00fe;">Get into their world, or share your own.</span></b> One of the best ways to connect with your teen is to enter "their world." You can play a favorite video game or go to laser tag. I joined Be Real, just so I show up in their daily feeds...my teens are the only people I have friended. We enjoy lots of laughs over this. Pull your teen into your world, too. Take your daughter on a girls night out. Bring your son to work with you in church nursery. When each of you experience a bit of life in the sphere of the other, it breeds understanding and connection.</p><p>If you are able, <b><span style="color: #ff00fe;">do something little, that feels extravagant.</span></b> Being extravagant is especially helpful if your teen has been struggling or feeling down. You are the best person to know what will speak to your particular teen. Would an extra-late curfew show him that you trust him? How about a $50 bill and getting dropped off at the mall? Maybe an extra special mani-pedi with your girl to celebrate the sunshine? Can you both play hooky together and binge a show all day? Or escape to our nearby mountains? </p><p style="text-align: center;"><b><span style="color: #ff00fe;">With Valentine's Day just around the corner, I hope you take a moment to celebrate the love in your life! It doesn't take much to induce a smile, create connection and make a memory today.</span></b></p><p><br /></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-57957606618666557122023-01-16T13:09:00.005-05:002023-01-16T13:10:28.278-05:00A Slow Start<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhAykU06IrsGOGKQSdctyx4ZyPcC9kbTxyXAc0cAiuAkQF-18DII3z3nEBhpQui8Bpf5Oz5_KTSISlqHS2v_vJkbwF9Kuvc16VE6vswpG7ruGCLj5ClG0IHCqu_4Jxoc3G6NDEjaTGcsq2bEtGTkyXPr_WLyRXkSK2XHhQEAxNJ8lKtnM9p0mlG4S1oag/s1485/January.jpg.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="991" data-original-width="1485" height="428" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhAykU06IrsGOGKQSdctyx4ZyPcC9kbTxyXAc0cAiuAkQF-18DII3z3nEBhpQui8Bpf5Oz5_KTSISlqHS2v_vJkbwF9Kuvc16VE6vswpG7ruGCLj5ClG0IHCqu_4Jxoc3G6NDEjaTGcsq2bEtGTkyXPr_WLyRXkSK2XHhQEAxNJ8lKtnM9p0mlG4S1oag/w640-h428/January.jpg.png" width="640" /></a></div><p>I never feel ready for the New Year. In fact, I kind of feel a bit of whiplash from frantic holiday events that suddenly disappear, along with the sparkle and magical feel of the Christmas season. Our schools have a late return, so nothing feels like it's back to normal. January catches me feeling out of routine, out of energy and generally out of sorts.</p><p>For this reason, I take a slow start to getting into my groove again. The entire month of January can be used to reset and refocus on our priorities. </p><p>I like to begin with a few simple questions: </p><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>What is working for me? </li><li>What isn't? </li><li>What do I want more of in the next year? </li><li>What do I want less of? </li><li>Do I have any realistic goals, with a plan? </li><li>Any wild dreams that I can consider moving towards? </li><li>Are there any milestone moments around which we need to plan? (graduation/anniversary/birthdays)</li><li>What am I looking forward to this year?</li></ul><p></p><p>Last year I had a high school and college graduate, a teen who started driving and another who moved away to college. There were many milestone moments. This year, there aren't the same benchmark moments around which to structure our calendar. But the patterns and rhythms will be there: spring garden planting, summer school break, fall football, etc. </p><p>Take time to consider the direction things are moving in your home and family so that life doesn't just happen, but is directed by your values and true goals. I no longer expect major overhauls or instant changes on January 1. Instead, I take note of what is working, what needs to shift - and then start moving in those directions. Year in and year out, I like seeing the shape of my life as it is refined to reflect me.</p><p>Get started. It's not too late! Movement in a positive direction is better than feeling stuck. Often I feel paralyzed by all that I want to accomplish. The truth is, I don't have to get it all done today. I simply need to get started. <span face="Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-size: 14.85px;"> </span></p><p>I imagine that I'll get more serious about my goals when my birthday rolls around next month. I hope that 2023 is already treating you well!</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-69005272198737492092022-11-14T10:21:00.003-05:002022-11-14T10:21:31.410-05:00Gift Guide for the Woman in Your Life<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhkhFeCixqXRDPhF5ArLvgH7WpEfzuJyhTbm6kCuFyO7D9kS_9nwtvZevwjy8it1iYY6OObHGpXOmlrQqfIIHIjzq6hq8ZaQJs-_s6nT8zmpcdtS6JcTghupRtZW1FswzjzUDPfAfyNaHrIMWQdhmDQYZ3uEC8TtKMpdULt3VJogIH-ww6N7AoO9oNs2g/s6000/Christms%20Gift.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="6000" data-original-width="4000" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhkhFeCixqXRDPhF5ArLvgH7WpEfzuJyhTbm6kCuFyO7D9kS_9nwtvZevwjy8it1iYY6OObHGpXOmlrQqfIIHIjzq6hq8ZaQJs-_s6nT8zmpcdtS6JcTghupRtZW1FswzjzUDPfAfyNaHrIMWQdhmDQYZ3uEC8TtKMpdULt3VJogIH-ww6N7AoO9oNs2g/w426-h640/Christms%20Gift.jpg" width="426" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><p style="text-align: center;">This is your list of sure-fire, guaranteed win gifts for the woman in your life. Just click on the image to visit or purchase from Amazon. </p><p style="text-align: center;">(There are a few stocking stuffers at the end!)</p><p style="text-align: center;">Splurge on a little luxury, black is great, too!</p>
<div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09RXMBP8M?_encoding=UTF8&th=1&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=0a9af6930785819735b537b32b79b0b9&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B09RXMBP8M&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B09RXMBP8M" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /></div><div style="text-align: center;">Keep her cozy - great for your best friend, your sister or your wife.</div>
<div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09JVQ84VG?smid=A2VZ5APQZEJGM5&th=1&psc=1&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=1b7e3b7cd04dc797d1f078d30ec7106c&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B09JVQ84VG&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B09JVQ84VG" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /></div><div style="text-align: center;">I really love my Powerbeats!</div>
<div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Powerbeats-Pro-Totally-Wireless-Earphones/dp/B07WBTX9FH?crid=5FRFQQB96RLC&keywords=power%2Bbeats%2Bpro&qid=1667737461&sprefix=power%2Bbeats%2Bpro%2Caps%2C92&sr=8-3&ufe=app_do%3Aamzn1.fos.f5122f16-c3e8-4386-bf32-63e904010ad0&th=1&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=8b8efe786dc09811c6ac1d7476313f3f&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B07WBTX9FH&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B07WBTX9FH" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /></div><div><p style="text-align: center;">There is no better eye kit</p><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0BBSL6W9H?&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=798717fe1feae08ff3afd10a7abf0163&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B0BBSL6W9H&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B0BBSL6W9H" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /></div><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"> Nutribullet - Rose Gold</p>
<div style="text-align: center;"><a a="" href="https://www.amazon.com/NutriBullet-NB9-1301RG-Rose-Gold-900W/dp/B07SSWPJHH?keywords=nutribullet+blender+rose+gold&qid=1667927502&sprefix=nutribullet+blender+rose%2Caps%2C126&sr=8-2&ufe=app_do%3Aamzn1.fos.f5122f16-c3e8-4386-bf32-63e904010ad0&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=5f9c204aabc5993f5d5dde118d0dd1de&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B07SSWPJHH&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B07SSWPJHH" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /> </div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">Comfy shoes for everyday and workouts</div><div style="text-align: center;">
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/ASICS-Womens-Gel-Kayano-Running-Black/dp/B088HBB35T?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=xS7tI&content-id=amzn1.sym.8cf3b8ef-6a74-45dc-9f0d-6409eb523603&pf_rd_p=8cf3b8ef-6a74-45dc-9f0d-6409eb523603&pf_rd_r=G31EAVTJ206689HT0CW8&pd_rd_wg=7INud&pd_rd_r=5e046192-e252-4f6e-ba90-c91dfae419fe&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=4f3b6f40858d4ae4d056a1654613fa0c&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B088HBB35T&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B088HBB35T" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /></div><div style="text-align: center;">Eco-friendly popcorn popper</div><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09CX95397?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&th=1&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=89cc04472b2bf4fe63a7bdfd310dde2f&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B09CX95397&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B09CX95397" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">Because I must be in the kitchen, a gourmet stock pot is a treat!</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Creuset-Enameled-Signature-5-25qt-Cerise/dp/B07KYSKV54?keywords=le+creuset+dutch+oven&qid=1668185824&s=home-garden&sprefix=le+%2Cgarden%2C107&sr=1-6&ufe=app_do%3Aamzn1.fos.f5122f16-c3e8-4386-bf32-63e904010ad0&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=0b8a39c85cb595434b8e7167856a10bf&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B07KYSKV54&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B07KYSKV54" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">But this one is also fantastic!</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div>
<div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Lodge-Enameled-Classic-Enamel-Island/dp/B000N501BK?crid=C5G5FAVRO2UF&keywords=lodge+stock+pot&qid=1668185915&s=home-garden&sprefix=lodge+stock+pot%2Cgarden%2C115&sr=1-4&ufe=app_do%3Aamzn1.fos.006c50ae-5d4c-4777-9bc0-4513d670b6bc&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=a3c5653303f4ee95aa1042a2f0f37d49&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B000N501BK&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B000N501BK" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div>
<p style="text-align: center;">And for the soups in that pot? I love this immersion blender -</p><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/KitchenAid-KHBV53BM-Variable-Corded-Blender/dp/B08F2QZZPQ?pd_rd_w=PuQ4J&content-id=amzn1.sym.f5690a4d-f2bb-45d9-9d1b-736fee412437&pf_rd_p=f5690a4d-f2bb-45d9-9d1b-736fee412437&pf_rd_r=C0VSZJR93N69VCB9CHNN&pd_rd_wg=l7vbZ&pd_rd_r=95dba8a6-66f8-4fac-9b72-b10c57de5fb4&pd_rd_i=B08F2QZZPQ&th=1&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=92e8fe75a3d42e955611b3abccdc812a&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B08F2QZZPQ&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B08F2QZZPQ" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /></div><p style="text-align: center;">The best for lips!</p><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0149MTNRA?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=167f3272a483b4d2700d3d42ce2cea95&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"></a><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0149MTNRA?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=167f3272a483b4d2700d3d42ce2cea95&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B0149MTNRA&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B0149MTNRA" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /></div></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">And this, too - choose your color</div>
<div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07NTMCZ2D?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=7d983c51e25664bc60d9267b42d233e8&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B07NTMCZ2D&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B07NTMCZ2D" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">There is none better for Carefree Hair</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000YACKO0?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=c0b60dd5fa4d036131e7cddbe55d3446&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B000YACKO0&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B000YACKO0" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></div><div style="text-align: center;">Hair/Scalp Care is real thing for us.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Sndyi-Massager-Scrubber-Silicone-Exfoliator/dp/B09N35WQWM?pd_rd_w=hn1c6&content-id=amzn1.sym.f5690a4d-f2bb-45d9-9d1b-736fee412437&pf_rd_p=f5690a4d-f2bb-45d9-9d1b-736fee412437&pf_rd_r=40309E2BY090FEMW0ANH&pd_rd_wg=bQe5r&pd_rd_r=e27b2f09-59f6-4f24-8adc-a82077d9595a&pd_rd_i=B09N35WQWM&psc=1&linkCode=li3&tag=farfrofla04-20&linkId=e82431a6f3fc70a4c658c42664356b4f&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_il" target="_blank"><img border="0" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?_encoding=UTF8&ASIN=B09N35WQWM&Format=_SL250_&ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=US&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US" /></a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=farfrofla04-20&language=en_US&l=li3&o=1&a=B09N35WQWM" style="border: none; margin: 0px;" width="1" /><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-43456519033214742852022-11-11T09:49:00.006-05:002022-11-11T09:49:39.361-05:00What is the Side Effect of Gratitude? It's JOY!<p><img alt="The Sweet Side Effect Of Gratitude...Is Joy!" class="aligncenter wp-image-75062 size-full" height="1707" sizes="(max-width: 2560px) 100vw, 2560px" src="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-1-scaled.jpg" srcset="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-1-scaled.jpg 2560w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-1-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-1-768x512.jpg 768w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-1-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-1-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-1-696x464.jpg 696w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-1-1068x712.jpg 1068w" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; color: #222222; display: block; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; height: auto; margin: 6px auto 21px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center;" width="2560" /></p><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;">Joy is the end result we desire for our families and <span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">now</span> is the best time to start on the path to get there.<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />The curated, beautiful images we see each day can be a slippery-slope to becoming dissatisfied with the reality in front of us. I often see my own life as a giant project that is currently “less-than.” It’s unusual to notice something in our lives and feel fully satisfied with exactly what we already have. Contentment is such a rarity in our culture, which fuels the desire for more and stokes the flames of materialism and anxiety. The constant comparisons result in chronic disappointment and disillusion.</p><h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #63cfdb; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 22px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 30px; margin: 27px 0px 17px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Being satisfied is a quality that we have to strive to achieve because it will not come naturally. </span></h3><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;">Like many of us during the Thanksgiving season, I am more intentional about practicing gratitude. What I’m learning is that the sweet side-effect of gratitude is contentment. Contentment comes by way of satisfaction, and the end result is worth the effort — for us and our kids.</p><h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #63cfdb; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 22px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 30px; margin: 27px 0px 17px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Satisfied + content = joy!</span></h3><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;">Joy is the ultimate fruit of gratitude, and it’s the prize for which we are all striving. The beautiful thing is that this formula works! As we shift the focus to the good in each day, we practice finding joy.<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />I see these side effects in my own family. They pickup on the thankfulness, too, and learn to take note of the good things we already enjoy more than the commercialism that ramps up this time of year. I see more laughter and less hustle so we can simply enjoy ourselves with contentment in the moment.<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />Oftentimes, we have to turn from what we wish for and accept what we have. Learning to be satisfied is a discipline that we can practice with intention. The action and emphasis is on the <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">turning</em>. We have power to decide what we consume via social media and to turn from the never-ending buffet of<em style="box-sizing: border-box;"> more</em>. Just like with our diet or schedule, we must have the courage to say, “enough.”</p><h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #63cfdb; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 22px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 30px; margin: 27px 0px 17px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">How can we model gratitude and contentment for our little ones, teens and even grown children?</span></h3><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><a href="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-04-scaled.jpg" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: border-box; color: #fea02f; text-decoration-line: none;"><img alt="" class="aligncenter wp-image-75065 " height="375" loading="lazy" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px" src="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-04-1024x768.jpg" srcset="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-04-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-04-300x225.jpg 300w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-04-768x576.jpg 768w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-04-1536x1152.jpg 1536w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-04-2048x1536.jpg 2048w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-04-696x522.jpg 696w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-04-1068x801.jpg 1068w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-04-265x198.jpg 265w" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; display: block; height: auto; margin: 6px auto 21px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center;" width="500" /></a></p><ul style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; padding: 0px;"><li style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 21px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Notice the good things in your home.</span> Is it warm? Comfortable? Safe? Be grateful.</li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 21px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Toss holiday catalogs as soon as they arrive.</span> Don’t let a marketing company tell you about things you don’t even know you need. Instead, look for charities that will steward a gift well. Show your children that there are some who need what we already have (health care, meals, schooling).</li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 21px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Relish the joy of serving!</span> ‘Tis the season to volunteer, so enlist the help of your kids to pack shoe boxes, shop an angel tree or sort coats for the cold. Put together care kits for the homeless, sick children, neighbors or the elderly.</li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 21px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Embrace delight in small things, especially nature.</span> Notice the birds and sky. Enjoy a fire pit with delicious cocoa. Let your eyes sparkle when you greet your family. If you are a mama, then I know you are grateful indeed.</li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 21px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Stop complaining…</span>about anything, even the weather. Practice for one day at a time and every time you complain (or think to do so), replace the thought with three positives. We seem wired to notice the negatives and then we miss the joy!</li></ul><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><a href="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-02.jpeg" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: border-box; color: #fea02f; text-decoration-line: none;"><img alt="" class="aligncenter wp-image-75063 " height="667" loading="lazy" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px" src="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-02-768x1024.jpeg" srcset="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-02-768x1024.jpeg 768w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-02-225x300.jpeg 225w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-02-1152x1536.jpeg 1152w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-02-696x928.jpeg 696w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-02-1068x1424.jpeg 1068w, https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Grateful-02.jpeg 1536w" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; clear: both; display: block; height: auto; margin: 6px auto 21px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center;" width="500" /></a></p><h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #63cfdb; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 22px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 30px; margin: 27px 0px 17px; text-align: center;"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Do you find contentment in the gifts you’ve already been given? May this season of Thanksgiving find you especially blessed with eyes to see the bounty you already have. Let’s practice gratitude together.</span></em></h3>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-63825050349785841422022-10-17T09:34:00.002-04:002022-10-17T09:34:37.481-04:00Stressbusters from Toddlers to Teens<p><!--wp:paragraph-->
<!--/wp:paragraph--></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEqsh-msE_eedG8rMNMfD8LfH4ZvPjBE4Vax2DxyLw5r0c3oELN_xQ1KVECTZ4_B-0SH1BmxTiXrS1OHUBY6moZvWLPfPEM67Le_NaswEa6XbLp4BxPLwrBAxEICEeatOXD3X0I_tDIprW8dk3epbUBlZWU3IspQubAv31uObKjD6HVYDNMpnE7yIthA/s5184/Stressed%20Kid.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3888" data-original-width="5184" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEqsh-msE_eedG8rMNMfD8LfH4ZvPjBE4Vax2DxyLw5r0c3oELN_xQ1KVECTZ4_B-0SH1BmxTiXrS1OHUBY6moZvWLPfPEM67Le_NaswEa6XbLp4BxPLwrBAxEICEeatOXD3X0I_tDIprW8dk3epbUBlZWU3IspQubAv31uObKjD6HVYDNMpnE7yIthA/w640-h480/Stressed%20Kid.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br />As grown ups, we know that stress is draining and affects our mood as well as our perception of daily experiences. The same is true for our kids, whether toddlers or teenagers. As a Mom, you have the ability to help when your child is facing overwhelm or stress. Today the demands of childhood are greater than ever before. We pack their schedules with activity and expect the highest outcome for each exam. Daily competition among peers and in athletics can trigger almost constant anxiety. <br /><br />We can step in to equip our youngsters to manage the stress that is inevitable. When your little one or your big kid, even your teen, starts to feel the pressure of daily life, here are hand-on ways to equip them how to handle the stress and stand with them as they face new challenges:<br /><br /><strong>Comfort</strong>. Grab a favorite bag of candy or deliver dinner to your child's desk. Make it easier to get out the door the day of a big test or project presentation by stacking their gear and including a water bottle. Notice what your child appreciates and then do it - this is your chance to earn mother of the year status! <br /><br /><strong>Create routines that lead to success</strong>. Sometimes we expect our children to think and act like adults, but they don't have the habits in place yet. It's our job to teach them how to prioritize and plan in order to be prepared. Look ahead at what is coming so there aren't last minute moments of panic. <br /><br /><strong>Coddle *just a bit.*</strong> Help by taking some of the load off your child's shoulders. I'm all for teaching responsibility and chores, yet helping complete their laundry or taking over dishwashing duty speaks volumes to the young person struggling to manage all the demands of the day. Provide time and space to conquer the tasks that demanding attention. <br /><br /><strong>(en)Courage</strong>. Praise the effort, the desire to complete, and the work ethic to stick with hard things. Notice when your child is working ahead or going beyond the norm. Focus on the progress, not just the result.<br /><br /><strong>Challenge the timeline</strong>. Inexperience and immaturity mean that kids don't realize how much time tasks will require. Break it down into manageable chunks and let them realize that accomplishment one step at a time. <br /><br /><strong>Calm their nervous system</strong>. Now is the time to begin instilling the life skills of mindful breathing, taking a walk or resting in order to reset our minds. Establish calming habits by teaching breathing techniques or cuddle up with a weighted blanket to sip something warm. The endorphins of exercise are calming, so pound the street, leap on the trampoline or use big muscles to haul things in the yard. Then small bodies are more ready to face a challenge. Stressful moments are a key time to teach techniques for managing all the future difficulties that life will bring. Let your child know it's alright to find ways to self soothe, so long as they are healthy habits.<br /><br /><strong>Crush it!</strong> Remind your child that you love him or her apart of achievement. Even if you make a B, C or fail. Do your very best, prepare and work hard. Then let the results go. Rest in the safety of family acceptance and love. When the outcome isn't what you hoped, or you make it through an especially busy week, take time to rest and reset. <br /><br /><strong>With guidance, our kids will incorporate real skills that can be used through their life as stresses come and go. They will learn to master the moment and press through the stresses in order to move forward.</strong><p></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-81379575563214699612022-10-07T14:13:00.002-04:002022-10-07T14:13:28.251-04:00Quiet Quitting - It's not just happening in the work place.<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-szR51w_KUuwDrI_5lkkqot2ory8Bt2o0KhrqI0kSK0vcxmAgolpJ2GxHWJnbp4rXpO1LhBo-pl889UWyH8LvJKp3CJYRfZ1XqEUSedOVYWJfglNT6PUkwI9ViMgOlnEbQudaT1QOnkfywaMbghSClXRF2pyFIHERjh5SdI0Xzf9bj3mvrOUemJXm8A/s5184/01%20Walking%20Away.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3456" data-original-width="5184" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-szR51w_KUuwDrI_5lkkqot2ory8Bt2o0KhrqI0kSK0vcxmAgolpJ2GxHWJnbp4rXpO1LhBo-pl889UWyH8LvJKp3CJYRfZ1XqEUSedOVYWJfglNT6PUkwI9ViMgOlnEbQudaT1QOnkfywaMbghSClXRF2pyFIHERjh5SdI0Xzf9bj3mvrOUemJXm8A/w640-h426/01%20Walking%20Away.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><p>I hear the term "Quiet Quitting" every day now. Have you heard the phrase? What do you think of the trend where individuals do the bare minimum, <em>or maybe not even that,</em> to remain employed. Quiet quitting means remaining in one's workplace while not actively going above and beyond. Is it slacking off, or setting healthy boundaries?</p>
<p>Doing the bare minimum and not taking job too seriously at the core, is a <strong>disengagement</strong> from the work team. I see it happening in relationships that are much closer than most work environments: families, communities, churches. People are disengaging, and we aren't sure why - there is no communication, just a drift.<br /><br /><a href="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/02-Walking-Away-scaled.jpg"><img alt="" class="size-medium wp-image-73812 alignleft" height="267" src="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/02-Walking-Away-300x200.jpg" width="400" /></a></p><p>The quiet quitting trend is a direct response to burn-out, and so people just walk away. As I think about this concept, what keeps surfacing for me is the idea of priorities. The truth is that we are limited in our time, energy and resources. As mom, we get to choose the most valuable places to invest ourselves. For me, it is my family. Knowing my priority shapes all the other decisions. </p>
<p><a href="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/03-Walking-Away-scaled.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" class="size-medium wp-image-73811 alignleft" height="300" src="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/03-Walking-Away-200x300.jpg" width="200" /></a>When we recognize the limitations, we can make wise decisions. "Every yes is also a no to something else." Choosing how to spend our time, energy and resources is a wise and important practice is cultivating a life that is personally rewarding. Protecting ourselves against burnout is worth is so that we can choose how to best spend our time and energy.<br /><br />I applaud those who make a choice to step away or move in another direction. But please, talk about it. Don't make the mistake of simply walking way or quietly quit. Share your mindset and own the choices. You will be respected for the honesty and have more dignity with whatever ways you do remain attached. Let clarity be the gift you leave when stepping back from responsibility.</p>
<p>Have you noticed others becoming less engaged in activities or work? Do you see priorities shifting? Have you stepped way from a responsibility in order to prioritize another, more important part of your life? <br /><br /></p><p></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-63712321726803213452022-10-07T14:13:00.001-04:002022-10-07T14:13:05.960-04:00Middle School Mistakes We Made, and You Can Avoid<p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;">With middle school in the rear view of my parenting journey, I have been thinking about how it was a different experience for each one of our kiddos. I can certainly see how very naive I was heading into those years where they straddled childhood and adolescence.</p><h3 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #63cfdb; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 22px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 30px; margin: 27px 0px 17px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">It’s awkward, churning with change and confusing for most. Here is what I would do differently in these three BIG years:</span></h3><h4 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #63cfdb; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 19px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 29px; margin: 24px 0px 14px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Expect change!</span></h4><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;">It may happen gradually, but then you will notice that your child is developing very new patterns. Privacy becomes important as they naturally strive for independence. This is a right and healthy development, even if it wounds a bit. Set your expectations for house rules, like <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">we eat dinner as a family and everyone helps with preparation or cleanup</em>. Maybe the bedroom-as-a-hideout bothers you, but it creates a safe retreat for your kiddo. Give them time alone and still ask him or her to intentionally come be with you for a bit, too. Compromise is important, and so is family connection.</p><h4 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #63cfdb; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 19px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 29px; margin: 24px 0px 14px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Get ready for some drama.</span></h4><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;">Emotions are on steroids for your child and all their peers. It’s an intense time for everyone. E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G is a big deal. The key to surviving this level of ferocity is to learn how to chill your own ball of nerves. I found myself too often projecting or responding to the perceived sentiments and it only escalated a situation that would better be handled with a cool hand. Instead of reacting or invalidating the feelings, point them to positive coping strategies.</p><h4 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #63cfdb; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 19px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 29px; margin: 24px 0px 14px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">I would ask to see the homework before I assumed it was done.</span></h4><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #222222; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 26px; margin-top: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;">Schoolwork gets more difficult in middle school and teachers expect real ideas and original work from the student. Taking time to do the unseen tasks of reading, organizing and planning ahead is something I wish I helped my middle schoolers learn earlier. I assumed too much and each experienced academic struggles, even failures. Study together, if you feel equipped, or get some help. Our school had good resources for additional aid. Begin homework early in the evening so there is time to complete it and unwind before bed. Touch base about every class each day.</p><h4 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #63cfdb; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 19px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 29px; margin: 24px 0px 14px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Speaking of the bed, sleeping patterns really do change.</span></h4>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-80077050583854246092022-06-23T11:49:00.002-04:002022-06-23T11:49:59.347-04:00How to Have a Terrible Vacation with Your Teen<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGSCDiSHFfmmIAQaTBfH0Y1DA5ml328qr82KBO3FcW0e24dCW98YooRUkDmpCEN64nwx8MKuqUfsvK_h17QEmRmdcQt5WJJfXbJS60D-Za0wwodh_uJEtWWBM2QGNmCFSccPvx2gMvrLimRWdYeaP3fPXrGeqpYnukXy9xkVDs_DODZAW1nYJE_SAVpg/s2048/Vacay%20HHI.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGSCDiSHFfmmIAQaTBfH0Y1DA5ml328qr82KBO3FcW0e24dCW98YooRUkDmpCEN64nwx8MKuqUfsvK_h17QEmRmdcQt5WJJfXbJS60D-Za0wwodh_uJEtWWBM2QGNmCFSccPvx2gMvrLimRWdYeaP3fPXrGeqpYnukXy9xkVDs_DODZAW1nYJE_SAVpg/w640-h480/Vacay%20HHI.jpeg" width="640" /></a></div><br />I have just returned from a beach trip with our kids, who are all teens (plus one friend). It was ripe for moody withdrawals, complaining, begging for souvenirs and eye-rolling boredom. It's not my first time vacationing with teens, so I knew how to make it a terrible time.<p></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGFP_OBcq6xHpM1mRfMtspq0lICncbqg9LbEKGhFl7-j46iyp7m--RgutfH9NJbn7bLOCSqnyDbIeqORqq_wUV72Gu0JLaiqbImCfuMF70ZxMHrPtspYaa3x9KSx8RuGFB9twLT47cI2CK7HWZjrR0CiyaqiWQ9lUpoln0RLDvgTNXh91govMlSlnSqg/s2048/HHI%20Lighthouse.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGFP_OBcq6xHpM1mRfMtspq0lICncbqg9LbEKGhFl7-j46iyp7m--RgutfH9NJbn7bLOCSqnyDbIeqORqq_wUV72Gu0JLaiqbImCfuMF70ZxMHrPtspYaa3x9KSx8RuGFB9twLT47cI2CK7HWZjrR0CiyaqiWQ9lUpoln0RLDvgTNXh91govMlSlnSqg/w300-h400/HHI%20Lighthouse.jpeg" width="300" /></a></div><span style="color: #3d85c6;"><b>Plan every minute</b>.</span> Oh yes, they love it when every minute is scheduled by someone else. Insist on family togetherness, all the time. Right? It's family vacation, after all, and demanding that your teen spends every moment in your company is essential. <p></p><p><span style="color: #3d85c6;"><b>Take photos constantly</b>.</span> Whatever. They take selfies and post snaps or "Be Reels," so why can't you get a grin? Because that would mean pausing their own online activities...recipe for disaster indeed. </p><p><span style="color: #3d85c6;"><b>Schedule everything, including meals. </b></span> Okay, meals are a highlight for most teens, but when you tell them what to eat and when, it loses all the appeal. Teens are seeking independence, so keeping a tight leash and monitoring every action will result in revolt.</p><p><span style="color: #3d85c6;"><b>Enforce bedtime.</b></span> Seriously? Am I five? No. "Bedtime" happens until noon each day and the nightlife is what happens after midnight. </p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7apr8tsxmfjFwWpSq2Yq4uLguS8qzld94oOcNQMUh3MQsRCpYTqL-dnK-tzt107XvYvcdiwXZdD-eQfzYXLykB9utchVP2YeO2QTSX2o0ao3bD4DOip-y-3rQGFhXc-4VxejN383MOGdEr0HBwXTS2W0UtUO6hJQ6RY93dZTY4ztQRYayWhcTSBDRdg/s2364/HHI%20Bed.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1330" data-original-width="2364" height="360" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7apr8tsxmfjFwWpSq2Yq4uLguS8qzld94oOcNQMUh3MQsRCpYTqL-dnK-tzt107XvYvcdiwXZdD-eQfzYXLykB9utchVP2YeO2QTSX2o0ao3bD4DOip-y-3rQGFhXc-4VxejN383MOGdEr0HBwXTS2W0UtUO6hJQ6RY93dZTY4ztQRYayWhcTSBDRdg/w640-h360/HHI%20Bed.jpeg" width="640" /></a></div><p></p><p>What teens want is more freedom, but they also want to know what to expect. It's a tricky balance between giving them independence and still providing a loose structure for your family trip. <span style="color: #3d85c6;"><b> Instead of imposing all your rules and expectations, switch the script and prepare to have a great get-away.</b></span> There may be sulking or a tantrum, so try to move past the missteps, and ask them to do the same. Adopt these ideas to enjoy the best vacation:</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiw8jkR0QQO44LQBqyk-aEXQy-G6N3TJlb6FAr7AH5nbFZfVAfSQPRqgDNOFpS9TK8rM6-cB31fIN4PIpi0-H-bh1Vk2Q9IJgkJaaxoPCybs-OTEN1eKH8CIE2y-uu7zFTbqcQc4qZYExkMr1yXeUvTVgJShNAhjDz5DMfazCGmR0WwDZQb134avdbeAQ/s2048/HHI%20Girls.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiw8jkR0QQO44LQBqyk-aEXQy-G6N3TJlb6FAr7AH5nbFZfVAfSQPRqgDNOFpS9TK8rM6-cB31fIN4PIpi0-H-bh1Vk2Q9IJgkJaaxoPCybs-OTEN1eKH8CIE2y-uu7zFTbqcQc4qZYExkMr1yXeUvTVgJShNAhjDz5DMfazCGmR0WwDZQb134avdbeAQ/s320/HHI%20Girls.jpeg" width="320" /></a></div><u>Lighten Up!</u> Try to remember why family vacation is even a thing - the goal is to bond and make memories together. This isn't the time to teach lessons or discipline. It's likely that life lessons <i>will </i>happen naturally as you spend time together, but this isn't the <i>why </i>of your get-away. Relax and let messes go. Let house-rules slide and focus on relationships.<p></p><p><u>Provide Space.</u> When you expect your teen to spend every moment with you, it's an expectation that will result in disappointment. When planning, opt for a multi-room rental or hotel suite. Do all you can to provide multiple bathroom spaces. Let your teen escape on his or her own to explore boardwalks, parks or whatever. We rented bikes and we let the ones with a license borrow a vehicle every now and then. Keep expectations clear about when to return and where the boundaries are.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9p22j2cSEIBZ6d-zT5KU_Y89sZCXjR3QP9bUOnS0JnpRxnUob-VzzLM_1GBWY1NH-vX46krI8aPlUtg8aJZtO49Z7LIup-mNsCMMbSgFOz4-NyNa_jF_0rU_Gmfuy8FzvSQMFkRF6fKdQPnNmegC-BWrvzl2eTM6-urY6DOHuCK8FHZuBhaO_jGTh6w/s2048/HHI%20Fish.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9p22j2cSEIBZ6d-zT5KU_Y89sZCXjR3QP9bUOnS0JnpRxnUob-VzzLM_1GBWY1NH-vX46krI8aPlUtg8aJZtO49Z7LIup-mNsCMMbSgFOz4-NyNa_jF_0rU_Gmfuy8FzvSQMFkRF6fKdQPnNmegC-BWrvzl2eTM6-urY6DOHuCK8FHZuBhaO_jGTh6w/w640-h480/HHI%20Fish.jpeg" width="640" /></a></div><p><u>Thrill them with adventure</u>. Create a focal point during the trip that stimulates adrenalin. It might be a shark fishing trip, roller coaster rides or white water rafting. Teens are wired for that rush of risk and adventure feeds their need for fun. It gives them a goal and something to talk about with their friends. This is the time to take a photo! ASK first, then catch the action. Snap candids other times and respect when your teen says, "enough."</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4WEZKvvRMS7dG753rtkqTz3IBVcRQtkepiCdwjAcaMJBUwR8nE7Op1amXWFepo6mA_4V-h2-UqNfCpnj7jB9ahnJqoGlpsL-95_Tld7uT8zfD4F7WxocIgeEKOKFA9bnLRtybKKCcSuCocrUL4QSerPS7EtCdhxyDR8IG8EngEGEbcVU0Eg8_v5p5Lg/s2048/HHI%20Family.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1534" data-original-width="2048" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4WEZKvvRMS7dG753rtkqTz3IBVcRQtkepiCdwjAcaMJBUwR8nE7Op1amXWFepo6mA_4V-h2-UqNfCpnj7jB9ahnJqoGlpsL-95_Tld7uT8zfD4F7WxocIgeEKOKFA9bnLRtybKKCcSuCocrUL4QSerPS7EtCdhxyDR8IG8EngEGEbcVU0Eg8_v5p5Lg/w640-h480/HHI%20Family.jpeg" width="640" /></a></div><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEic2-Snr712Sv2yn-NV74fbWU3Ose1BftraDcTZhOPk5kUaV1_YgWwmGI6rx7t3cYuV8FfUKM6isirXeOO5jNyFQFftpF-D_cRzQEyHBmBaZ6zZnj1T6MuJPBD-iyk1rI1GFeHO1x7o0tv-09n8N9IVtchb-jYrTmhpGWvdqyEX60Edw3j6Gr1USSOs4w/s2048/HHI%20Memoris.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1534" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEic2-Snr712Sv2yn-NV74fbWU3Ose1BftraDcTZhOPk5kUaV1_YgWwmGI6rx7t3cYuV8FfUKM6isirXeOO5jNyFQFftpF-D_cRzQEyHBmBaZ6zZnj1T6MuJPBD-iyk1rI1GFeHO1x7o0tv-09n8N9IVtchb-jYrTmhpGWvdqyEX60Edw3j6Gr1USSOs4w/w300-h400/HHI%20Memoris.jpeg" width="300" /></a></div><u><div><u><br /></u></div><div><u><br /></u></div>Remember food matters</u>...but it doesn't have to be expensive, just accessible. Teens love to snack, love to eat. It's nice to have a few great meals out on vacation and if you're able, do it! Teen daughters, especially, seem to love the excuse to get dressed up to go out. But keep lots of their favorite snacks on hand, too. One of the thrills is having unfettered access to candies, sodas and other foods not always kept around the house. We brought a mix and made brownies, and I included sour gummy worms and dark Hershey chocolates in our grocery order. Going out to eat is special, but we also cooked for ourselves multiple times. The teens were even in charge of dinner for "Tuesday Tacos at the Condo." <div><br /><p></p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg53xEtC8IcgeCQLeNtC5zZA8L-AxoL8NLaG125xuti3eTV76vIbaB556h2wIZLKNOyPAMz4Q5xCnXUs6HOxJibU7TpnNMvE2XzumUMBS8uOVJrvbAEPYcBFTHSp2g21ZJwDaJ_1UsWknJbUBMRL6Ig_P1zxfmWCg3ghxtoC2bZ7sw0-ldLojhpphkXPw/s2048/HHI%20Date.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg53xEtC8IcgeCQLeNtC5zZA8L-AxoL8NLaG125xuti3eTV76vIbaB556h2wIZLKNOyPAMz4Q5xCnXUs6HOxJibU7TpnNMvE2XzumUMBS8uOVJrvbAEPYcBFTHSp2g21ZJwDaJ_1UsWknJbUBMRL6Ig_P1zxfmWCg3ghxtoC2bZ7sw0-ldLojhpphkXPw/s320/HHI%20Date.jpeg" width="240" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>We got away for date night.</i></span></td></tr></tbody></table><p><u><br /></u></p><p><u>Loosen the tech boundaries.</u> I still have my teen plug in his phone each evening, outside his room when we are home. But on vacation, I relax this rule. I don't want to police behavior and it gives me a chance to gauge his maturity as he takes on more independence and responsibility in the tech department. Sometimes letting them know we trust them motivates our teens to behave more wisely that if they feel they have to be sneaky. We let the guys bring their video games, too. Again, to redirect from screens, I try to provide lots of other options. Swimming, biking, boating, hiking and especially going into service free areas keep our young people engaged in reality.</p><p><u>Consider bringing a friend.</u> At first I was opposed to this, as it may interfere with family bonding. But I've seen it be a positive peer pressure for having a good attitude (no one wants to be embarrassed in front of a friend) and it builds good will with your teen. Just make sure you know and trust the friend and that you have enough space.</p><p><u>Be flexible.</u> One thing is certain, teens are unpredictable. There might be some attitudes or moods that require a change of plan. You may need to get away from them for your own sanity and mood - that's okay! Embrace the emerging independence and start expanding your own identity. I love to have a vacation date night with my husband and I also enjoy sneaking away to meet up with a friend for lunch while on vacation. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhegJ_F4JaQoTywGkfXMbB5eVwXzBLnTh2RXQCa6MHFa32B4WVM45BUaN15QVTnNgCFvT8fmM1hV_7Mth3J9d_8exota7DmTPXJq1wPGk3ms6TPaf2vBnrcRBZR8-VI_ONEwqBhQRe2jc-riRVITg34I0Dzbl8-811rNqWrrpz7zUx3jPCLFJ6DMeiANQ/s2048/HHI%20Salty%20Dog.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhegJ_F4JaQoTywGkfXMbB5eVwXzBLnTh2RXQCa6MHFa32B4WVM45BUaN15QVTnNgCFvT8fmM1hV_7Mth3J9d_8exota7DmTPXJq1wPGk3ms6TPaf2vBnrcRBZR8-VI_ONEwqBhQRe2jc-riRVITg34I0Dzbl8-811rNqWrrpz7zUx3jPCLFJ6DMeiANQ/w640-h480/HHI%20Salty%20Dog.jpeg" width="640" /></a></div><p>There are so many ways to vacation as a family. Do what works for yours! In my own season of teenage parenting, we are loving the less hands-on and more interesting season of vacationing. We share the driving responsibilities and encourage their input in the planning. It's more fun that ever, even though we aren't together 24/7 like in the little-kid-years. </p><p><span style="color: #3d85c6;"><b>Both seasons have their charms and so I'm choosing to love where we are now.</b></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgGAL2J7sVaj0TBYFwXracWmgxkZb3e6yUfLHyQIF3aJlQZzpjVwBXIw3_-MQUIECkK7nH5BvQRLNDrSum0HnAEdc0RUF2RrvgAIwoWhbXnSj5aMiEGWyGUjwh-gDSrwflXbaKwnDJlHE8BHJzCu8gZFJUj21Ra90g5tCssi_t5o1pX46s9iRY-7t3W8A/s2048/HHI%20Harbor%20Town.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgGAL2J7sVaj0TBYFwXracWmgxkZb3e6yUfLHyQIF3aJlQZzpjVwBXIw3_-MQUIECkK7nH5BvQRLNDrSum0HnAEdc0RUF2RrvgAIwoWhbXnSj5aMiEGWyGUjwh-gDSrwflXbaKwnDJlHE8BHJzCu8gZFJUj21Ra90g5tCssi_t5o1pX46s9iRY-7t3W8A/w480-h640/HHI%20Harbor%20Town.jpeg" width="480" /></a></div><p style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="color: #3d85c6;"><b>Pro Tip: Pack extra chargers and remember that teens still get hangry, like toddlers. An epic snack-stash still works wonders!</b></span></i></p></div>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-85181007448375568172022-06-02T15:35:00.004-04:002022-06-02T15:35:52.299-04:00A Prayer of Release For My High School Graduate<p>Once upon a time...A mama heart wished for a child to mother from start to finish. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgYRJreTBhIGNksNWadrENnnuqJY4sMWqncO-ER0aO76fB0CFF1bipL3I4nSdYDBcPNtqZt8Lcxra0eZ-8XEVKbjkyC3gG-LZzINX7vNTLoxxvES7hrQmXdbA8WKu4KDVYOS1uQPb0WqrNyYo_f2D9FLpwmgi6VoMPHU3zNzBfXxRvUK3pRjQpcB1upJg/s2048/Jake%202.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1638" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgYRJreTBhIGNksNWadrENnnuqJY4sMWqncO-ER0aO76fB0CFF1bipL3I4nSdYDBcPNtqZt8Lcxra0eZ-8XEVKbjkyC3gG-LZzINX7vNTLoxxvES7hrQmXdbA8WKu4KDVYOS1uQPb0WqrNyYo_f2D9FLpwmgi6VoMPHU3zNzBfXxRvUK3pRjQpcB1upJg/w512-h640/Jake%202.jpg" width="512" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYYsyIqyxF4SsU9zWNbpmg07mc0pXRF0oXvnw8DsezJ3FRHDcar1YWR6xwFgZ9FPZCvM6FMXOr-C7zEOH8MZPp1C7xu5SiZslIgubK8rtV4BEYv3EW3wA7QbO18lPBINp70lvRlYTZ_QQUacqxa4ToIjRhdAXffB_fsgO5kA8e2Q_znmz3Y9TtuLCEUg/s1409/Jake%20000.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1168" data-original-width="1409" height="331" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYYsyIqyxF4SsU9zWNbpmg07mc0pXRF0oXvnw8DsezJ3FRHDcar1YWR6xwFgZ9FPZCvM6FMXOr-C7zEOH8MZPp1C7xu5SiZslIgubK8rtV4BEYv3EW3wA7QbO18lPBINp70lvRlYTZ_QQUacqxa4ToIjRhdAXffB_fsgO5kA8e2Q_znmz3Y9TtuLCEUg/w400-h331/Jake%20000.jpg" width="400" /></a></div>You arrived, so fresh and new, and I poured all had had into you. Now, I think this is the finish line: High School graduation. <p></p><p>Technically, you don't need me anymore and yet I'm still here. Here for when you want to talk about girls and friendships. Here for when you arrive home from your summer job and we sit quietly out on the patio. Here for when you don't have the bandwidth to talk anymore and just want to sit, and lean. You're so good at just being present.</p><p>I think of all the prayers I've prayed since I discovered you were growing in me. Thousands of hopes and desires lifted through the infant stage during the late night feedings and changes. I wanted to give you a fairy tale family, and even that fell apart and we rebuilt a new one together. I think of the truly challenging school days where we worked so hard to find the ways you learned best. Now I can even appreciate those mean kids who were so harsh to you, because it helped you know you can come to us with anything - and we always have your back. You face nothing alone. I cannot promise your life will be free from heartbreak or pain. When it come, I will still be here.</p><p>Dear Lord, </p><p>Just as you gave me this son so many years ago, I release him back to you. There isn't a day I haven't known you were with us and guiding us along together - growing me and and him in ways both seen and only felt. Now I choose to trust you will grow each of us while we are apart.</p><p>I pray that when difficulties come, my son will draw closer to you and not push farther away. Surround him him with positive influences who will spur him to think deeply and refine his character. May he be willing to stand alone and still invest in friendships. Thank you for his curiosity and humor. Thank you for his health and even the challenges that draw him to you. Make his path forward clear to him, so that he can go in confidence. Remind him of your kindness and teach him to value people always over possessions. Let him find friendship, adventure, romance and his calling. </p><p>Thank you for letting me be his mama, for then and now, and evermore. Amen.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgEFakuwt8NTDpDqG6d0PTZ6vsg-9f7HXl8sFmN2dR9uGSWsQOG2wMBSQ8MczdZ481c5HgjOcsAA39RhWiEYxj1b-yW0XO0hMf6SJxn1NmpqK60IjiVt26QsdRT1ZqQDlv6KvEKnWKY3qju7kXPOTlGJoR9xbPXxxVuBrLWX04n5590uLisLwHzj_OM1A/s1895/Jake%20Tux.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1365" data-original-width="1895" height="462" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgEFakuwt8NTDpDqG6d0PTZ6vsg-9f7HXl8sFmN2dR9uGSWsQOG2wMBSQ8MczdZ481c5HgjOcsAA39RhWiEYxj1b-yW0XO0hMf6SJxn1NmpqK60IjiVt26QsdRT1ZqQDlv6KvEKnWKY3qju7kXPOTlGJoR9xbPXxxVuBrLWX04n5590uLisLwHzj_OM1A/w640-h462/Jake%20Tux.png" width="640" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-72230110749845350992022-05-29T15:30:00.001-04:002022-05-29T15:30:00.173-04:00Making Grownup Friends <p><a href="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Girlfriends-2-scaled.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" class="size-medium wp-image-71483 alignleft" height="225" src="https://knoxvillemoms.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Girlfriends-2-300x225.jpg" width="300" /></a>I wish friendship was as simple as putting out a sign, and waiting for loyal, kind people with shared values to arrive. The friendships of life ebb and flow, but most people that I talk with feel it is more challenging to create friendships in adulthood. I don't want to pretend it's easy or that I have the secret way to connect.</p><p>I do know, the more I try to engage, the more I am able to make connections. Over time, the repeated connections build history, trust and dependability. The best way I know to make a friend is to reach out to someone. After all, if you're in search of friendship, chances are another person is, too.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqGY4Dr2RlnyC9D5U9lVj_nf_B-wgschqX1eZvnPKpGpRz-S8oFKx3-EWvo5ytEq6Oll8IOR8hewykSL8_nz1xtTgSuUdb03xrKFhpax5wH9Tq8LgGVg7HYXdO_adWms4fHFam3RKc8G9-2rXNBqokgmnh80211R_xn-ryj_Y9zGMlXhEfnC7z3yYc6w/s4032/Girlfriends%203.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3024" data-original-width="4032" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqGY4Dr2RlnyC9D5U9lVj_nf_B-wgschqX1eZvnPKpGpRz-S8oFKx3-EWvo5ytEq6Oll8IOR8hewykSL8_nz1xtTgSuUdb03xrKFhpax5wH9Tq8LgGVg7HYXdO_adWms4fHFam3RKc8G9-2rXNBqokgmnh80211R_xn-ryj_Y9zGMlXhEfnC7z3yYc6w/w640-h480/Girlfriends%203.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><p>Are you connected to any group? A school? church? volunteer organization? Even a gym or neighborhood association? These are great places to gather with people who share a similar goal. Mom-life connects us, as we share the daily interactions at schools, stores or activities. Start with the loose connections that exist naturally.</p><p>Make the first move. Invite someone to the farmer's market or to run (walk) a race. I became closer to an acquaintance who asked me to pick up a marketplace purchase so she didn't have to go alone. Join a social media group that actually meets in real life. I have made sweet connections in the Knoxville Gardeners Facebook Group or Hiking in the Smoky Mountains group.</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEicRrB8Ww3GR3xuZWZxCMY6UqWBcSoirDB50tPLwj6Wm07gDYvzCML_eb5M3qiMSak-8Hjezlc1ClK72nOms_eL4HsEnEjdn5VvBS8YNDgANyneITIY2pUCaeAPOv4PPV1YUz7Q3Lt9BZgPwGXAmEUTTNXIyzPLbI5I-ePNOBLT65IjDJqr1V7E9hDwEQ/s2048/Girlfriends.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1619" data-original-width="2048" height="316" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEicRrB8Ww3GR3xuZWZxCMY6UqWBcSoirDB50tPLwj6Wm07gDYvzCML_eb5M3qiMSak-8Hjezlc1ClK72nOms_eL4HsEnEjdn5VvBS8YNDgANyneITIY2pUCaeAPOv4PPV1YUz7Q3Lt9BZgPwGXAmEUTTNXIyzPLbI5I-ePNOBLT65IjDJqr1V7E9hDwEQ/w400-h316/Girlfriends.jpg" width="400" /></a></div>Nourish the connections as you make them. Turn one positive experience into another by following up when you meet someone or first get together. Take notice of birthdays or important events in the life of your acquaintances. When you can circle back and connect over such a detail. Communicate through your actions that you are interested and caring. This is one of the ways that friendships build.<p></p><p>Like all relationships, friendship requires trust, caring and repeated connections for it to grow. Be natural as you let the budding introduction expand into friendship. If you make the effort and see that it isn't returned or reciprocated, then move on. Don't keep spending time and energy where someone simply isn't available. It may be that they are too busy or processing circumstances about which you know nothing. It's most likely not about you.</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVi2L38YE2YVcQ3S0lbGZQUIX_KA_Nt5InffXSFNygK5U0HfQrs5-Y7DRjrwg3-9E33Iqub9-sJzmo88-xz24S0ncMrA1k4HfVearPOmiU1ul4sygS8IBcsOqAywgTbkFaYXJhTq5MK98ujOm4YvYRHUeQqrxx88LXd_9NYdDmMF5hJeidoT9jPMEg2Q/s1901/Girlfriends%201.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1407" data-original-width="1901" height="474" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVi2L38YE2YVcQ3S0lbGZQUIX_KA_Nt5InffXSFNygK5U0HfQrs5-Y7DRjrwg3-9E33Iqub9-sJzmo88-xz24S0ncMrA1k4HfVearPOmiU1ul4sygS8IBcsOqAywgTbkFaYXJhTq5MK98ujOm4YvYRHUeQqrxx88LXd_9NYdDmMF5hJeidoT9jPMEg2Q/w640-h474/Girlfriends%201.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><p></p><p>Keep up with some of your old friends. Invest in the ones that have lasted through seasons of life. The happy memories and encouragement will keep you bolstered if and when you move or find yourself isolated by other concerns. Friends scatter all over the world in our transient culture, but hang onto those who really bring joy to your soul. It will remind you of <i>why </i>it's worth it to keep reaching out to connect.</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFRQfZ_DqSxFXZ4LASiqk1xCRJbG0OsV7k1hDeMQ3CZ04Tprf-1VstXSRmq9tOabB8-mDJeMPKgUhCOlGsvUQHszfyz6s8CkM60cpkA6MWxBTFvCajy4n3cfKmRSgyQ24oIgF1jeWy-iakzJNcZStAsKPAdbGrkVsublAoA3pKdne78OS1r01xRs2Ozg/s2969/Girlfriends%204.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2969" data-original-width="2227" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFRQfZ_DqSxFXZ4LASiqk1xCRJbG0OsV7k1hDeMQ3CZ04Tprf-1VstXSRmq9tOabB8-mDJeMPKgUhCOlGsvUQHszfyz6s8CkM60cpkA6MWxBTFvCajy4n3cfKmRSgyQ24oIgF1jeWy-iakzJNcZStAsKPAdbGrkVsublAoA3pKdne78OS1r01xRs2Ozg/s320/Girlfriends%204.jpg" width="240" /></a></div>Occasionally, leave your partner at home. Sometimes the security of our spouse keeps us from engaging with others in the room. Take the risk to show up alone, or try something that interests just you. Be brave and be willing to try something new.<p></p><p>You're not alone if friendships seem hard to come by. The very business of adulthood, of mom-life, keeps us from having time to create the connections that we need to flourish. Instead of making excuses, set your intentions and make the effort. There are others who will welcome your efforts and cherish the friendships that form. We are all craving connection.</p><p> </p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-51179874519317227882022-04-25T09:03:00.000-04:002022-04-25T09:03:43.904-04:00Facing Forward When Encountering All the "Lasts"<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizEOYQ8aX9JHH2nSgCdfXFLU9s3LUl3KNTbCX7y4nF2p5ifr3j2DfFjNbmTYUTKQShns7f9yhqWTw2SqWaQIN109C7-LWhnS6qnIwrA6RCcJPLmLAHU9x2tUxbLRGCamBxKgAQr-_R-RmS6hw6TS7cC8RP6OObSi1yn0_qcEksnEhGUZFvTuT2Nt0Wfw/s661/0-Senior%20Night.jpeg" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="661" data-original-width="472" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizEOYQ8aX9JHH2nSgCdfXFLU9s3LUl3KNTbCX7y4nF2p5ifr3j2DfFjNbmTYUTKQShns7f9yhqWTw2SqWaQIN109C7-LWhnS6qnIwrA6RCcJPLmLAHU9x2tUxbLRGCamBxKgAQr-_R-RmS6hw6TS7cC8RP6OObSi1yn0_qcEksnEhGUZFvTuT2Nt0Wfw/w286-h400/0-Senior%20Night.jpeg" width="286" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="font-size: xx-small;">Senior Night for 2021 Football</span></i></td></tr></tbody></table><span style="color: #0b5394;"><span style="font-size: medium;">I can focus on the lasts, and the loss, or I can face forward and focus on the future.</span><br /></span><div><br /></div><div>I once read that, "You never know when it's the last...time rocking a little one sleep or washing a child's hair. But by the time you arrive at grade twelve and senior year, the lasts really start to stack together. From the <i>last</i> first day of high school to the <i>last</i> football game and the <i>last</i> senior photos, it is a grueling march of one last event to the next. <div><br /></div><div>We face the last prom, the last lunch packed and the last day of class followed by that climax of graduation. I've become a bit obsessed with looking back at photos from the time before my son was in school every day and got to stay home with me. I remember that season with such sweetness. Our world was small and contained and known. </div><div><br /></div><div><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgrjifYidVzLNnb_hpWucxl23Q54FYB6V56GWoHS87bXCMF_juhfVNFOx7cEHwNK4o6hFUYfzbdC5HMZX3I4LYtKlB2JloRY3RL81AWR5L-8Hrgi5hRPbRnOHh1-WC491T24aN13pXe-rwyD5GmWGgKx4u5s-qWl9fyVBU_DHsexxBROaw4vuOM06Yt5g/s1672/Jake%205.jpg" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1672" data-original-width="1254" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgrjifYidVzLNnb_hpWucxl23Q54FYB6V56GWoHS87bXCMF_juhfVNFOx7cEHwNK4o6hFUYfzbdC5HMZX3I4LYtKlB2JloRY3RL81AWR5L-8Hrgi5hRPbRnOHh1-WC491T24aN13pXe-rwyD5GmWGgKx4u5s-qWl9fyVBU_DHsexxBROaw4vuOM06Yt5g/w150-h200/Jake%205.jpg" width="150" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="font-size: xx-small;">Preschool Graduation, 2009</span></i></td></tr></tbody></table>Now the world is wide open to my senior-son. It's a success story when he no longer needs me to navigate his way or even to make a meal. His independence is my job- review and statement of "well done." Although I'll always be a part of his life, he is now forever independent, which is a bittersweet victory. I'm so grateful for the gift it has been to raise him for 18 years. No privilege has been as rewarding as having a front row seat to his growth. </div><div><br /></div><div>Lasts are hard. But firsts are exciting and fresh - it's the perspective that my guy is experiencing as his life moves forward. My senior-son cannot wait to take his first trip without a parent or chaperone. He's excited about the college dorm five hours from home and the world that will expand just for him. He's dreaming about a future with all the optimism of unburdened youth. It's a perspective that I want to share. </div><div><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvxzxm3brXd0AAKlAzVmS2sQE-pD_Od6DsAKQQetXbbub1Vp6d2zzzsWilChEaUK3so1V2x70wyvK-ts60NHvIpieWJUKjaXsfbiWOY8L9BSDS6ZfbW1I_xa7QixsC28cXDAhEVhYN6NZumWCAEsSiCjue9CBXVVdrA07l2Hmyg8h5nnPV8OKsCbt6KA/s2288/DSC_1006.jpeg" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2288" data-original-width="1830" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvxzxm3brXd0AAKlAzVmS2sQE-pD_Od6DsAKQQetXbbub1Vp6d2zzzsWilChEaUK3so1V2x70wyvK-ts60NHvIpieWJUKjaXsfbiWOY8L9BSDS6ZfbW1I_xa7QixsC28cXDAhEVhYN6NZumWCAEsSiCjue9CBXVVdrA07l2Hmyg8h5nnPV8OKsCbt6KA/w320-h400/DSC_1006.jpeg" width="320" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: xx-small;"><i>Senior Photos</i></span></td></tr></tbody></table><br />Yes, I'm sad about the things that are changing and I miss seasons we've shared together. And yet I have to remember that graduation isn't the end of our relationship. It's fun to be able to talk about anything and everything together. It's rewarding to meet the friends and significant other that he brings to our home. How gratifying to see him embrace many of the values we sought to instill!</div><div><br /></div><div>In our blended family, I have stepdaughters who have given me a front-row seat to the way things shift and move into new seasons. I've watched my husband struggle with missing his girls, then find new footing as their relationship deepens into maturity. The love and respect for him is even greater than it was when they lived under our roof. The adult relationship is unique and special.</div><div><br /></div><div><span style="color: #0b5394;">My son's firsts are marked by my lasts.</span> I can focus on the lasts, and the loss, or I can face forward and focus on the future. There are still so many things to experience with my firstborn. The possibilities ahead are endless and you can be sure I'll be by his side setting up that dorm room. </div></div>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-59346187217920723112022-03-23T09:42:00.001-04:002022-03-23T09:42:06.555-04:00Don't Quit! Spring Ahead to Finish the School Year Well<p><span style="color: #6aa84f; font-size: medium;">Like us, you might be wrapping up spring break and it's been so nice to get out of the rut and routine of a rigid school schedule. The thought of returning to alarms and deadlines isn't fun or welcome, but here we go.</span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzXXYS7LFfAYLPfTaSABVdbMc-9UbRm3Tb7TBY1E97rjyIdrUoaFxos6I9QHyIKKaDOprvpmtTpudPMcxHkPJ5gfcZ0NmEnucniXt9Ivzl_9t78xqI0bvF2xCW8AVnQbcJpX5sm3E2Q82o9DYPo1Cvl8pgfpW-kz_hPAbmKU9aF-0heR1mZJQlNxT00g/s5893/Spring%20Happy%20Teacher.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3934" data-original-width="5893" height="428" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzXXYS7LFfAYLPfTaSABVdbMc-9UbRm3Tb7TBY1E97rjyIdrUoaFxos6I9QHyIKKaDOprvpmtTpudPMcxHkPJ5gfcZ0NmEnucniXt9Ivzl_9t78xqI0bvF2xCW8AVnQbcJpX5sm3E2Q82o9DYPo1Cvl8pgfpW-kz_hPAbmKU9aF-0heR1mZJQlNxT00g/w640-h428/Spring%20Happy%20Teacher.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><p>With spring weather and spring sports, there are lots of distractions from the the assignments and standardized tests facing our students. How can we help them stay on track to finish the school year strong?</p><p><b>Work Consistently.</b> This one commitment will save yourself so much stress and turmoil. Often there are long-term projects that will be due toward the end of the school year. It's so easy to put of the work but don't let that happen to your student. The weight of stress that will be carried isn't worth the price of procrastination!</p><p><b>Prioritize. </b>It won't take long to find out what is going to come easily and what will require more attention. It won't take long to realize that there is so much happening between now and the end of the school year that not everything can get our attention. Determine what is most important and what projects/grades need the most focus. A quiz tomorrow might not carry as much weight as an ongoing project that could be initiated now. </p><p><b>Enlist Support Early.</b> When you begin early, you will identify areas that demand extra support. It may look like formal tutoring, or it may simply finding an online game. Where you need help, go ahead and get the support in line so that you can access the best resources.</p><p><b>Take Breaks.</b> Once you have established that you are working regularly, found support where needed and have gained momentum, then you are free to take a breaks. Plan a daytrip for the time off at Easter. Get outdoors on a bike or skates. Plant something that will bloom this summer. Cook a fresh recipe together. Taking a break refocuses the brain so that you aren't burning out on material that is draining. </p><p><b>Set Boundaries.</b> At the same time that I support a break, we also have to be clear about getting back to business. Having a set time for homework, like before dinner and after snacks, helped to create rhythm and routine. For younger kids establishing reciprocal rules helps to be clear with expectations. An example might be: No video games until the homework is done. Or 30 minutes of reading before turning on a screen. </p><p><b>Plan to Celebrate!</b> No matter the outcome, you will get to the end of a this school year. How can you mark the moment and reward the hard work? Plan an outing (the zoo, an activity in Pigeon Forge?) or a gift for hard work. Use this as motivation when it gets tough to keep going by sticking a picture on the fridge or bathroom mirror. </p><p>Spring is full of promise and expectation - it's a season of renewal and reminder of the cycles of life that make all things new. Just when we want to turn from the requirements of school schedules, it becomes a critical time for our kids in school. </p><p><span style="color: #6aa84f; font-size: medium;">Spring fever is real but you can set the tone for success as we finish the school year and accomplish the next level.</span></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6000987830827389501.post-20109378914222271952022-02-14T14:49:00.005-05:002022-02-16T10:14:18.826-05:00Five Ways Show My Teens I Love Them Everyday<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEivemboQdMRgYZfmKprTH0nLSkm5VAoLCvjq0Zj9Myh_XgMLkWe3Dn-oSQfdXiK2_E9Y6GjLJREUX-jhqrNYdLz8C4kY14RYhpROVOdeu-efygR9celL4FoQVRthini50wKv5bU0wZwH6EzCjg_8MVOg665t0QvM--LRsooeKgDxx4NU7usyZTLvB5w-g=s2048" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEivemboQdMRgYZfmKprTH0nLSkm5VAoLCvjq0Zj9Myh_XgMLkWe3Dn-oSQfdXiK2_E9Y6GjLJREUX-jhqrNYdLz8C4kY14RYhpROVOdeu-efygR9celL4FoQVRthini50wKv5bU0wZwH6EzCjg_8MVOg665t0QvM--LRsooeKgDxx4NU7usyZTLvB5w-g=w640-h480" width="640" /></a></div><p>In our culture -- where love is so conditional and measured by clicks and likes or the fickle connections of social media -- our teenagers are desperate for the steady, dependable love of a parent who will walk them through the hills and valleys of adolescence.</p><h3><strong><span style="color: #800180;">I know you love your teen, but how can we be sure that he or she feels that love? These are some ways learned how to get the message into their hearts:</span></strong></h3><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiUQPz2V3TuD2GwGQ5VRkuQ3DIgSSNwM0k07MlpWq6gK_20w4kcolvAtChlIKZqDoYE_we5Y3n2mrxG81MFVE_ETJVx0VMGg1xa2O6TZe0tBWZ23Oyvx2s5ykSnpTbCYzvEoA-hpCgM020EV3shopuE1rULBsRo1Ct_ncaf8KNWvoeRXpJ3m6LJgHOxHQ=s2048" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiUQPz2V3TuD2GwGQ5VRkuQ3DIgSSNwM0k07MlpWq6gK_20w4kcolvAtChlIKZqDoYE_we5Y3n2mrxG81MFVE_ETJVx0VMGg1xa2O6TZe0tBWZ23Oyvx2s5ykSnpTbCYzvEoA-hpCgM020EV3shopuE1rULBsRo1Ct_ncaf8KNWvoeRXpJ3m6LJgHOxHQ=w640-h480" width="640" /></a></div><strong><div><strong><br /></strong></div><span style="color: #800180;">Listen.</span></strong> Hear the words, the tone and the length of what your teen is saying. The competition for attention is real and so often our kids aren’t being validated in their thoughts and words. Before you interrupt to fix or correct, listen. If your teen is talking to you, you are doing something right. If he or she is not, it’s time to draw out their thoughts and concerns.</div><p><strong><span style="color: #800180;">Relieve.</span></strong> The pressures of teen life are real and intense. There is no break from the academic standards or social pressures. Yes, you’re going to need to have some basic rules and requirements, but it must be cushioned with grace and acceptance. Work together to tackle a disastrous room. Create a strategy to complete the heavy school load. Build margin into the schedule so that there is space for downtime.</p><p><strong><span style="color: #800180;">Observe.</span></strong> When my teens can be confident they are cared for, they feel loved and safe. This means that we stock the food they like. We align with them in overcoming obstacles like acne or ACT goals. When you make what is important to them just as important to you, you are demonstrating your love. Sometimes this looks like getting help for a tricky subject (I can recommend a fabulous math tutor!); other times, it means noticing when one needs jeans or new socks.</p><p><strong> </strong></p><p><strong><span style="color: #800180;">Release.</span></strong> Do not be a dictator to your teen because that will backfire by watching your teen withdraw from you. More than ever it’s time to work with your teens to establish boundaries and consequences, so be ready to explain your thoughts and what you see as working and not. You still get to set the rules and teens still try to be more independent. Instead of demands, offer suggestions and give lots of chances for your teen to succeed. When consequences are necessary, be clear in communicating how trust (and privileges) can be reestablished.</p><p><strong><span style="color: #800180;">Encourage.</span></strong> Teens want to be respected. Teach them what traits are admirable and freely give privileges that allow those characteristics to shine. Catch him or her doing the right thing and really share how much you appreciate it. Apologize when you lose your temper and be quick to let go when emotions overpower logic -- it happens to all of us. Teach them by showing grace so they can be gentle to themselves, too. </p><p><span style="color: #800180;"><strong>Love well</strong>.</span> One of my teens wants me to buy Takis every week and another one wants protein powder. Sometimes they want me to come into their room with lots of hugs and chatting. Most of the time they want their space and privacy. I try to be available for both. Often, getting their favorite treat or just an extra hour at curfew is the best way to remind them I am on their side. Notice what your particular teenager enjoys and indulge every now and then.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><em>My love is not conditional on their behavior or mood. I remind each of them that I am here for them and am their biggest fan. I’ve had to work at not reacting to the dramatic swing of teenage emotions and finding ways to connect as their activities have changed. It’s exhausting and empowering as it reveals my own shortcomings and helps me grow. But the great work of loving is rewarded with connected relationships that let my teens know love is lasting. It’s not fickle or unpredictable. It’s steady, dependable and solid in their changing world. It goes deep and anchors each one to the family and to what will remain when the tumultuous teen years are in the rear view.</em></p><p>
</p><h4><strong><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiBwRJVliDE34a3Y7w21KohQjyJdaV2O9eicZRFYewP2kme30ECVqnQBQAQRKktyY1-gmfxPFgzanD7y-7lTTvr6afnBr4ieQIf1BHM4aY9tipTe-I4erwCYILnw3DkAC3sAch0EvEEq4Dfgp0Vo5EY4V0eOfjOGEFAZDTTEtT41Ne_OhsniV9qbuHZXQ=s2048" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiBwRJVliDE34a3Y7w21KohQjyJdaV2O9eicZRFYewP2kme30ECVqnQBQAQRKktyY1-gmfxPFgzanD7y-7lTTvr6afnBr4ieQIf1BHM4aY9tipTe-I4erwCYILnw3DkAC3sAch0EvEEq4Dfgp0Vo5EY4V0eOfjOGEFAZDTTEtT41Ne_OhsniV9qbuHZXQ=w150-h200" width="150" /></a></div><span style="color: #800180;">Pro tip: Make a mental date with your teen, but don’t tell him/her. Just once a week (or once a month, or whatever works for you) go get a coffee or drive through Sonic just the two of you. Keep showing up every day, just like you have all their life. The awkward bodies, changing voices and bizarre outfits switch on the regular, but your dependable love will see them through.</span></strong></h4><br /><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Missy Junehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09020559836786005693noreply@blogger.com0