It's Tuesday now and obviously I didn't finish my post!
Yesterday was the birthday of my former spouse and father to my children. They went with him to celebrate, so I had some time alone to catch up on grocery shopping, laundry and some fun 'me' time, too. It was interesting to consider how different he is at age 40 than when I met this man more than twenty years ago. I wasn't sad, just a bit retrospective as I considered the alternative life I could have been living. I thought about all the choices he made and I made that brought us to the day where we celebrated only by trading our children on special occasions.
On that note, I do think it is important to teach my children to celebrate others. So, I let them pick out a silly t-shirt to give their Dad on his birthday. They got to wrap it up with a balloon and feel like they did something special. We'll come up with a gift on Fathers' Day, too. They want to celebrate their dad.
This was the first year that the father of our children did not acknowledge Mother's Day. And they felt it...especially my sweet daughter who's love language is gifts. She was so concerned to not have anything to give and brought me flowers from outside and a plethora of drawings from school. I do not want to squelch her sweet, expressive nature so I'll suck in my annoyance and help them do something special for their dad.
Do you acknowledge special days of your former spouse? Do you enable to the children to do so?
By the way, I took matters into my own hands and splurged on a new pair of exercise shoes for my own Mothers Day treat ... I get comments any time I wear them!