#1 - I've provided a consistent and stable life for the children.
#2 - I've cultivated and created a life for myself as a woman.
#3 - I've tried new things and learned more about what I enjoy. I've taken risks.
#4 - I'm learning to let go of the expectations and rigid definitions that I thought were the only way to be happy. Discovering joy amid real life has been so liberating! Accepting that pain is part of the process is hard, but increases the joy.
#5 - Learned more deeply that God is faithful and to be trusted. This learned most intimately during the most challenging of times.
Being a single mother is much like being any mother - life is full of choices and demands that pull us in many directions. These are just some of the many things that fill my wonderful, crazy days ...
- Firstborn, age seven who's sweet and affectionate heart more than make up for the school day challenges.
- Sweet Daughter age six, sassy and independent, she is the soul of our family reminding us all to celebrate each day.
- Baby Boy is almost four. He is boistrous and enthusiastic, smart as can be and adding to the life of our home with his fun and thoughtful commentary.
- Family: They all live far away and that makes me so sad. But the love and support is felt through the miles and I treasure these endless sources of joy.
- Dearest Friends: Both near and far, these are the people that back me up when I need encouragement, help with childcare, support during sad days.
- Worklife: Everyday I sit at a desk and keep the lives of others running smoothly. I'm grateful for the flexibility and conistency my job provides ... but I hope to find something more inspiring someday.
- Churchlife: Where they keep me accountable and I learn to live in faith with others. And I have to say I love the music and joyfully praising God corporately.
- Homelife: As the only adult, the fact is a great deal of energy and effort goes into the basics of running a home. Grocery shopping, cleaning, cooking, playing and even yardwork are daily parts of single mom life. Life management takes a lot of energy
- Mr. Wonderful: There's no denying he's part of each day, whether I see him or just expend emotional energy. It's challenging, but true.
you have positive mind. Salute your spirit
ReplyDeletebeing a single mommy, I can understand this post too much~! great one!
ReplyDeleteCame over from Kelly's to just speak encouragement over you and tell you to keep rocking it as a Mom!
ReplyDeleteI found your blog through Kelly's page. I'm facing life as a single mother with two small ones and just reading through some of your posts I am starting to feel some encouragement that I can, in fact, do this. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteVery positive and so true!!! I can relate to what you are saying!!!
ReplyDeleteYou have such a positive spirit and outlook!! You are such a wonderful example for us single mommas!!
ReplyDeleteLove this post (came over from Kelly's Korner)! Although I'm not a single mother but I know lots of them. Seems like you have it all together here and seems like your doing a great job with your kids!!
ReplyDeleteWith your attitude, it shouldn't be long before the happiness you deserve enters your life!
ReplyDeleteWishing you God's very best as you continue with all that God had intrusted you with!
ReplyDeleteI love this post!! It was almost like you took the words out of my mouth. You have SO much to be proud of as a mom!! (found your blog through Kelly's Korner)
ReplyDeleteI enjoy reading your blog. I am 27 and still single. Life hasn't turned out exactly the way I expected it either. Haha- I just try to do the best I can with what I've been given.
ReplyDeleteI have much to be grateful for. I love the quote, "Life management takes a lot of energy." Amen. Sometimes I feel like my house shouldn't get dirty if it is just me- but I still spend lots of time cleaning and yard work just like everyone else.
Hello! I have been looking forward to Kelly doing Single Mom's for a few weeks now! I am a single mama as well, and know to well the blessings and complications that come along with being a single parent. I am 32 and a single mom of two Lil Ladies, ages 13 and 9, with another Lil Lady due in April. I would love to meet some new friends, and get to know other single mom's and share our lives via blogs, etc!! :)
ReplyDeletei wish i had come across your blog when I was single. REading your words would have been the encouragement i needed when i felt like things were hopeless and i would never make it single! Good Luck to you and so glad to hear how good things can be.
ReplyDeleteHi Missy. I came over here from Kelly's. All I can say is WOW! Thank you so much for sharing your life. I love that you are so real and vulnerable. I can relate to so much that you have shared. I'm a single mom too. I didn't have my kids when we divorced though. As hard as it sounds, I have been so thankful that my son that we lost didn't have to go through all that. I became a foster mom after our divorce and adopted my son and I now have custody of another little girl as well.
ReplyDeleteBlessings to you and your sweet family!
Hey I have been a fan of your blog for awhile, a silent fan. I'm not a mother nor was I ever married, I'm only 20, but my mum's been a single mother for the past 7 years already. My dad was her first and only ever love. I saw her tumble and fall, but pick up the pieces, and now she's a stronger women, even though she may not be the perfect mother all the time, we five kids know that she does her best. You remind me a lot of her. Strong, tough and wonderful. Hope you will keep blogging, because seems like you have a strong fan base, and we will be deeply sadden if you ever stop.
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Thanks for this inspiring post. I'm a single mom myself, and find it extremely hard to be happy on weekends when my daughter is at her dad's.
ReplyDeleteI like what you said, "pain is part of the process is hard, but increases the joy." Those are empowering words. I need to keep reminding myself that.
I feel so blessed to have been directed to your blog.