I've really been struggling...mostly with the long term effects of divorce on my children. I struggle sending them to their father's for visits and worry about the lack of consistency. I would feel awful to live split between two locations! Still, I can do nothing to change this. Every book and expert say how important it is for them to spend time with their Daddy and yes, they adore him. So I've got to trust they'll be okay.
Again, it comes back to an issue with control.